I had a very good question from a client the other day about desire and comfort: “How much does being good in bed matter when it comes to maintaining desire? In other words, is it possible to be desirable to a woman if you’re not good in bed?” I haven’t really talked about this issue […]
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One common “viral” tweet you see derivations of more or less every day in the manosphere is about what sort of woman you should marry. These tweets all list essentially the same traits. Dresses feminine. Cooks. Keeps house tidy. Low notch count. Good values. Submissive. Trad. Etc. etc Nothing wrong with any of these, of
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Yesterday’s email was a hard hitter. And it really makes you wonder — if game lends itself towards validation-seeking, and you want connection instead of validation-seeking… what is the point of game? OK, maybe it helps you to “hook up.” But if you’re not interested in doing that, and you want to move right to
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This is going to be an email that falls on a lot of deaf ears. The manosphere indoctrination on this topic is deep; challenging it is likely to trigger many of you. You’ve heard of “momma’s boys,” obviously. And, if you’re a man with any masculine instinct whatsoever, you don’t want to be one —
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One of the most common topics the manosphere LOVES to talk about is the dating market. When women hit the wall. How many “notches” it takes before a woman can’t pair bond. How likely it is for you to get a divorce. Etc., etc. It’s a major feature of the “Rollo Pill” or “Black Pill”
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Was asked to comment on a “controversial” tweet the other day: It was fairly funny, not going to lie, because I find the term “alpha female” to be extremely cringe. It’s weird enough when men refer to themselves as “alpha.” But it’s bizarre when women do. It shows they’ve spent too much time in men’s circles… and
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I think we can agree one of the worst things to come out of Covid (RIP) was the dreaded “zoom date.” Probably it was something of a novelty in March/April 2020. Back then there was all sorts of excitement about the world ending, accompanied nevertheless with the naivety that things would “get back to normal”
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“I worked with Pat on and off for two years over the pandemic. I consider myself lucky to view the last two years as transformative for me in a number of extremely positive ways, which I primarily attribute to the personal growth I achieved with Pat’s help. His deep understanding of male pathologies and the
