Been working with one of my clients recently on his troubled marriage. It’s a challenging situation to say the least. The usual occurred: Guy makes some big mistakes that kill comfort, guy responds to his mistakes with placating actions that kill desire. (Read: The 2 Sources Of Relationship Conflict) Basically, the more he’s talked to her, […]
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Spend enough time in this corner of the world, and you’ll hear plenty of bitter men talk about how girls aren’t attracted to “nice guys.” Allegedly, they only like assholes — people who treat them like shit. *Not* the gentlemen who treat them well and take care of them. Is this true? Like most things
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Ever had a woman turn you down for sex? No, I’m not talking about a girl you’ve been trying to hook up with… though of course that happens from time to time. I’m talking about girls you’ve slept with before, and that you’ve been actively dating. Not the “conquests,” the one’s you’re committed to. It sucks, right? Here you
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PERSONA: THE SECOND PILLAR OF ATTRACTION (PART 2) In Part 1 we talked about the nature of Persona. Now we’re going to explore it in detail, how it interacts with the other Pillars of Attraction, and how it comes into play both when you’re single and in a relationship. Persona Converts Opportunities (And Strengthens The Other Pillars)
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One thing that causes more pain to people than anything else is relationship conflict. I’m no stranger to it. Fighting has come with every woman I’ve loved. Of course, the details of these fights might have varied. But the cause of each them was the same. A lack of comfort or desire. (Read: What Women Really Want From Men)
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In Part 1 we discussed the essence of seduction and dominance, how to use them in pursuit of power and attraction, and modern culture’s role. But are seduction and dominance equal? Or is one obviously better? Seduction vs Dominance: Which Should You Choose? It’s an unpleasant fact for most in the manosphere to hear, but if you
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Today I did a podcast with Nabeel Azeez of Becoming The Alpha Muslim on “How To Reignite Your Sex Life.” Nabeel’s audience is young Muslim men who are looking to reclaim their masculinity in the context of their faith, so he invited me on to talk about frame, relationship dynamics, and the biggest one of all –
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A few things heard commonly in relationships (or at wedding ceremonies) are variations of the following: “I’m just so grateful to be with my best friend” “You’re my best friend, I love you” “I love that I’m marrying my best friend” Now, don’t get me wrong — I’m not trying to be a dick to
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HOW TO CREATE WHAT YOU HATE One of the crazy things about humans is their ability to project. Aka, taking their own flaws, pathologies, etc. and accusing other people of doing them. We’ve been seeing a bunch of that taking place recently. (“Kill the ‘fascists,’ they are inciting violence!”) But truly, it’s as common in
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Almost every guy out there has at one point found himself enamored with a woman. So as one of those men, I’m sure you’ve said something like this before (or at least heard it from other guys): “She’s different than other girls” “She cares about me in ways no other woman does” “We really get
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