As anyone who watches my periscopes knows, I enjoy my wine. It’s a great joy to my life… the diversity of producers, terroir, vintage, varietal, etc. produces endless flavors, and each bottle is a new experience. And yet, wine has its drawbacks… to the extent I am already cutting back on drinking it. Wine is alcohol, and […]
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This might be a weird one for some of you, but after tweeting this out this morning, thought I’d elaborate: As I get deeper and deeper into energy and intimacy, I’ve started to think more about what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. There is a polarity
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An occasional concern I get from prospective clients is whether there is going to be “actionable advice” in our workings together. They know I get “deep work” and know my stuff about women… but will I tell them specifically what to do and say to a girl? Are they gonna get the right homework assignments, and systems
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As usual for most mornings, today I woke up, and after some light reading and journaling checked twitter to see what dumb stuff was going on in the world (and what clever takes my mutuals had to say about it). But to my surprise, today in my DMs weren’t questions about some situation with so-and-so’s
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Could use some guidance on this… I have a black girlfriend. We’ve been dating 6 weeks and everything has been great. Deep connection. Aligned values. Undeniable physical attraction. It’s the most heart centered relationship of my life. We were driving on Saturday and she saw a Trump 2020 sign & cracked a joke. She then
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Hey Pat, I was wondering if you’d be able to help with a small annoyance with my girlfriend before it turns into a problem. Here it goes, I understand if there’s only so much you’re willing to do. The short story is that every time my girlfriend and I aren’t in physical proximity with one another
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There’s a reason I’m a dating AND relationship coach. These two subject areas, while obviously overlapping, are in fact quite different. Something that becomes VERY apparent as a married guy (who had a LOT of experience dating)… when I see the regular commentary of manosphere bros asserting things that work in a casual context will
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One thing that seems incomprehensible, and indeed threatens permanent resentment for many “recovering nice guys” is why — despite all the kind things they did — the women they loved and cared for could act so cruel to them. These are guys who were, on paper, the perfect boyfriends — they were considerate, generous, patient.
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One of the topics I’ve “pioneered” in the manosphere is the concept of “Girl Game” — the things women do to seduce men, and how men need to protect themselves accordingly. And because so few gurus talk about it — most guys are concerned with gaming women, not preventing themselves from being gamed (a big mistake) —
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Hey Pat,I appreciate your work, it has seriously helped me better my life. But I’d like your help with a situation I’m in right now. Last Friday, after dating for 4 months, I told my girlfriend I love her. She responded saying she loves me too. But on our most recent date, she told me
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