It’s a pretty frequent problem you hear a couple years into a romance. Guy’s with a great girl. But as the prospect of commitment looms, he struggles with “pulling the trigger.” He starts to fantasize about other girls… or at least the idea of them. “Maybe I just need to bang a few more…” The only […]
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Tweeted out something very banal the other day, yet unsurprisingly I suppose it hit a nerve: Because I received a slew of responses from the usual anon accounts with some old statue or painting as their avi — or maybe if you’re lucky a set of abs — emphasizing the usual “women are never too exhausted
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Received a question the other day re: one of my tweets: A lot of the nitty-gritty of this confusion comes down to definitions. So let’s attack this term “fantasy.” What does it really mean? I do not think it is useful to associate it with masculine and feminine ideals. Ideals are behaviors to strive for.
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That’s right, we’ve got a sex email for you today. Want to reveal some stuff from a conversation I had with a friend the other weekend, as it’s a question I get very often from clients: “I can’t last very long, how can I change this?” Well, while there are a lot of psychological reasons
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Been on a classic movie bender as of late. And I found myself all the way back in the 50s, comparing the two iconic actresses of that era… Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe. Very different archetypes of women… which we will be exploring shortly. What’s interesting is that Marilyn has been promoted more in the
Hope you enjoyed yesterday’s breakdown of the men in Sixteen Candles. But there was another element I wanted to mention from the film… Because while it’s fun and useful to talk about archetypes, the reality is that movies are a snapshot in time. They don’t capture an individual’s growth, or the evolution of a relationship. They take a moment,
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David had me on the arensal podcast – we go deep into this blog post and more. Check out the show!
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Listen to a lot of mainstream or new age relationship advice, and they will tell you that the secret to a healthy relationship is to communicate. And truth be told, they’re right. Some level of “game playing” may have a role early on in a romantic dalliance — you don’t want to come on too strong after
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As you all know, I’m a very curious person. In an effort to really understand (and thus serve) men in their relationships with women and themselves, I’ve perused many different communities. One of which are the “spirituality” or “new age” ones. Now, not going to rag on these people too much. They are very sweet
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