Musings

Birthday Surprise

Today is an exciting day for me. My 30th birthday is in just a few days, and my wife has been planning some monumental surprise for me starting in the next 10 minutes. I didn’t really plan on doing anything, since I thought I would be in France for it a couple of months ago […]

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The Predator Within

A couple of you have been asking me what I think about the #MeToo movement and the sexual harassment allegations flying around. I know it’s a hot topic, and I probably should have said more on it earlier — content 101 is discuss what’s relevant. Yet for the most part, I’ve avoided giving comment. The

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Is Seduction Masculine?

About a year ago I wrote a two-part article on the difference between Dominance and Seduction. (Read: Part 1 & Part 2) It’s a topic that fascinates me to this day. The main question that still remains for me is how it plays into game. Let me take you down my line of inquiry… I consider both Dominance

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Review of Pat Stedman by DatingAdvice.Com

Looks like we’re moving into the big leagues! In December this site got reviewed by Hayley Matthews, Editor-In-Chief at DatingAdvice.com The article was a great look at how I got to where I am today and some of my philosophy of “what’s important” when it comes to helping men. Take a look: http://www.datingadvice.com/for-men/pat-stedman-a-holistic-approach-to-improve-dating-mindsets

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What Is #Upstream?

WHAT IS #UPSTREAM? There have been a lot of comments and questions about #UpstreamTwitter in recent days — what it entails, what we stand for, what we hope to achieve. We appreciate the interest. But I’ll admit, although the the group nominated me to take a stab at it — these aren’t easy questions to

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Personality – The Third Pillar of Attraction (Part 2 – Psychological Attraction)

PART 2: PSYCHOLOGICAL ATTRACTION As we discussed in Part 1, pheromones and intelligence lay the ground work for Chemistry to occur. But it is psychology itself that brings two people together, and that is what we will explore now. Our minds are wired in distinct ways, and that wiring determines whether we are drawn to

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The Cost Of Numbing Yourself

The other day a tragedy happened. A good friend of my wife and I — one of the coolest, most loving, funny people we knew — died. He was 35. The cause? Alcoholism. He got checked into the hospital earlier this summer with cirrhosis, and almost died then. The rest of the summer he was

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The Way Forward

THE WAY FORWARD In case you missed it, there were some great thoughts by La Playboy in response to my article on the ultimate imperative. Basically, La Playboy took issue with my emphasis on marriage, making the point that most men already prefer to have a family, and that for the rest, there are alternative

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The Ultimate Imperative

THE ULTIMATE IMPERATIVE If you’ve been around our corner of the internet, you’ve probably heard the term “feminine imperative” — coined by the highly influential and insightful Rollo Tomassi — thrown around. For the uninitiated, the feminine imperative is essentially the execution of a woman’s sexual strategy: to sleep with a man who is dominant

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