A reader writes in: I’m nearing the end of grad school and took some time to isolate and think, take inventory. I realized I’ve become miserable to the fact that I have no social circle anymore. In high school I was in the football team, in college I made new friends at the boxing gym […]
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So as many of you guys know, one of my most distinct and powerful concepts I’ve pushed is the idea of “friend-zoning” women. For those who don’t know, this is basically making a woman — and yes, often an attractive woman — your friend rather than pursuing her romantically. The goal being to “plant seeds”
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Men don’t usually talk about plastic surgery. When they consider looks, it’s mostly in the category of fitness. If you have a “meh” feature, or if your face looks a bit weathered — if you’ve got muscle, you look like a man. You’re good. But if there’s one cosmetic area guys tend to be particularly
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As anyone who watches my periscopes knows, I enjoy my wine. It’s a great joy to my life… the diversity of producers, terroir, vintage, varietal, etc. produces endless flavors, and each bottle is a new experience. And yet, wine has its drawbacks… to the extent I am already cutting back on drinking it. Wine is alcohol, and
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A reader writes in: Hi Pat, I just had a major realization, that I’ve been living (to some extent) within the “frame” of a close male friend. E.g. seeking validation, following his lead in things. #nohomo Have you ever written about this, or have tips for how to build your own frame? — I’ve written about ditching
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Short and sweet content for you today. In yesterday’s email we talked about the problems smart guys have with women. The content revolved mostly around behavior and mindset. However, there is another more “macro” piece to the puzzle that applies to many in the high-IQ category. Their life is their work… and they don’t do
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A lot of you guys know Nash from @DaysOfGame_com on Twitter. (If you don’t, he’s one of my most recommended follows, so get on that) Good guy. SMART guy. I met him in NYC a few months back for some lunch and wine… we talked for hours, and if we didn’t have appointments we could have spent
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Hey Pat, one thing has been on my mind recently. I feel like in my friendships with other men I am usually lower on their priority list than they are on mine. I get about a 50% response rate through text. Usually my texts are articles/tweets that I think are funny or invites to hang
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As many of you know, I’m not one of the more “responsible” manosphere figures. I do not adhere to the stoic philosophy so much as the epicurean — I drink, celebrate, flaneur — life for me is about joie de vivre, spontaneity… not so much regimentation. Which I know will not resonate, at least not fully, with everybody reading this. And
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