Was asked to elaborate on yesterday’s tweet: A lot of guys think discipline is what is missing when it comes to managing vices. You are weak, and that is why you are wasting your life away on porn, video games, scrolling, drugs, not making money, not talking to women, being fat etc. But the reality […]
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A lot of guys are insecure about how good they are in bed. And given the culture we’re in, it’s understandable. The media tells men their value with women is based on their sexual prowess, and porn reinforces the message. So when guys find themselves in an intimate situation, the pressure on them to perform
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Put out a tweet the other day that got some mixed response: Unsurprisingly, much of the pushback was from women (including an executive coach, the epitome of male energy — big surprise!) But honestly the main reason people got upset with this tweet is because they misunderstood what I was trying to convey. For instance,
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Going to keep this email short and straight to the point. A lot of guys in the manosphere talk a big game. But the fact remains… The biggest impediment to growth has been, and always will be, stubbornness and arrogance. Unfortunately, these are common traits among men. Most guys would prefer to struggle and stagnate rather
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One of the things that defines the manosphere, certainly compared to the mainstream, is its admirable focus on personal growth. If you’re not where you want to be, you need to work towards it. If you’re weak, if you’re poor, if you suck with women — and if you have filthy or self-destructive habits that
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Was asked to comment on a tweet the other day that is sure to trigger some people: My take? While I believe I understand the place that this person is coming from, the phrasing is poor… and is a classic example of someone swinging from one extreme to another. It is is true, for instance,
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Short and sweet email today. But want to address a “popular fad” this side of Twitter — not simply no fap, but no ejaculation. First of all, I want to emphasize I think it’s great guys are experimenting with this. It’s healthy to get in touch with your own sexual energy, and learn restraint. However,
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Something I talk about quite frequently on here is the concept of integration. In case you are unfamiliar, it’s a psychological term, that derives from Carl Jung’s work. Integration is the process of bringing forth the unconscious into the conscious. This can be aspects of the shadow being brought to light. Or it can be
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A little digression from our usual dating and relationship talk today, at least on the surface. Instead wanted to discuss a little drama going on in the manosphere. As many of you have undoubtably seen, the great Andrew Tate and Coltybrah have had a little bit of a spat. Coltybrah ran his mouth — as usual — and challenged
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Got tagged in a man’s romantic dilemma on Twitter… a scenario which is not so uncommon: My thoughts? One thing that is extremely common — yet far more lame than most men realize — is the male inclination towards “stubbornness.” It’s a style of masculinity particularly found in hard populations that have sustained a lot
