Cognitive Dissonance Yesterday my wife lost her job. The day before that I sliced my eye open so badly I spent all day hiding like a vampire from the light. Could hardly write, because to a cut cornea a computer screen is the modern day version of the rack. It was leaking pus all day. […]
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PERSONA: THE SECOND PILLAR OF ATTRACTION In part two of this series, we discussed preselection — the first pillar of attraction. Now we’re going to address the second pillar (and one most talked about by dating coaches): Persona. Let’s dive in. The Two Halves Of Persona Like preselection, persona is composed of “comfort” aspects and
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PRESELECTION: THE FIRST PILLAR OF ATTRACTION In the last article in this series, we gave an overview of the three pillars of attraction. In this one, we’re going to zoom in on the first of those pillars: Preselection. Let’s get right into it. The Two Halves Of Preselection Within each pillar of attraction, there are a number of
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THE THREE PILLARS OF ATTRACTION I’ve been often asked, “Pat, if there is ONE thing you need to do to succeed in dating, what is it?” Generally, my go to response is this article. There is no question attraction lives and dies on the strength of a man’s frame. It is the safest and most
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HOW TO BE A LOSER Everybody wants to be successful. Now, how they define that success might be different. But few people would ever claim that they want to be a loser – even if they’re not willing to put in the effort to change that reality. No, most people tell themselves the same story:
THE GOOD SIDE OF SHAME It had been 67 days exactly. Probably not the longest of my life, but the longest I could remember. And I was proud. I had been going strong. Temptation – when it reared it’s ugly head (a rare thing as of late) – was beaten back with an iron will.
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THE 2 TYPES OF MEN AND WOMEN (AND THE GAMMA MALE AND FEMALE) In the “manosphere,” two main types of men are bandied about frequently. These archetypes are simplistic, but often useful: Alphas and Betas. Many of you may be familiar with them, but for those who aren’t, the concept behind these archetypes is simple.
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LEARN TO SAY NO AND DO WHAT YOU WANT It was a warm, fall Sunday afternoon – and we had arrived. Mike’s Seafood. The *best* seafood on the Jersey Shore. Kate was eager for some crab legs. Me, not so much. Normally, I’d be right there with her – but the tedious labor of extracting
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SHOULD MEN CRY? Unlike many in the modern age, I am not one that thinks men are better off now that emoting has become encouraged. A man’s self-respect and a man’s fortitude come from taking tough times under the chin, and ruling their emotions… not letting their emotions rule them. The lack of this stoicism
WHEN THE CLOUD OF DEPRESSION HANGS OVER YOU The last couple of days I have been depressed. I’ve found it hard to concentrate on work or muster much of any desire to do anything. I’ve felt anxious. My heart seemed like it was trying to break itself out of my chest. My breathing was short
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