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Your Wife Is Not Your Friend

A few things heard commonly in relationships (or at wedding ceremonies) are variations of the following: “I’m just so grateful to be with my best friend” “You’re my best friend, I love you” “I love that I’m marrying my best friend” Now, don’t get me wrong — I’m not trying to be a dick to […]

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The Route To Low Confidence

Recently yours truly had an article of his rejected by an esteemed magazine. Now, no need to get our your torches and pitchforks out in my defense. They’re good people, and I’m OK. In fact — I was expecting it to happen — even though the content was great. You see, even though *I* like

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The Truth About Anxiety

Ever wanted to talk to a girl or take things to the next level but “couldn’t” because you felt too anxious? I know it’s happened to me too many times to count. Anxiety is endemic in our society, and in the romantic realm it’s pretty much a given. The more you like someone, the more

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Why Relationships *Really* Work

Almost every guy out there has at one point found himself enamored with a woman. So as one of those men, I’m sure you’ve said something like this before (or at least heard it from other guys): “She’s different than other girls” “She cares about me in ways no other woman does” “We really get

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The Power All “Players” Have

You know one thing pretty much all guys who struggle with women have in common? A lack of total social awareness. Don’t get me wrong, these guys are not (necessarily) *clueless* about what’s going on around them. In fact, they might even be no worse than your average joe-schmo. But coupled with other issues, the little

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In Defense of Attacks

I talk a lot about the importance of strategy over tactics. As in, not focusing on short-term actions that undermine the broader goal. Some examples? – Trying to get a girl when the very act of pursuit undermines your frame– Gaming a girl who is not a good fit for your broader relationship goals– Orienting

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