Yesterday I talked about the quality vs quantity dilemma with women. But a reader noticed a potential discrepancy. To paraphrase: “Pat, does this mean you no longer believe in harems?”An excellent question — since I wrote an article explaining how to get them — which I will answer presently. First though, I want to zoom out. Although […]
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Yesterday’s email was long, so I cut it short. But there was more business to attend to… and I want to return to a theme I have thought much about recently. Quality vs Quantity. I believe this is the fundamental difference amongst those in the dating community. There are some that believe the way to
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I got into a cordial disagreement with Nash (@daysofgame) on Twitter the other day. Now, I don’t want anything here misconstrued. Nash is very smart, and moreover a good guy. I like him a lot. And, I don’t want to put him on blast. But I think it worthwhile for you readers to understand our
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Yesterday I told you I’d tell you a few more stories about alignment. So here goes. Let’s circle back to Warsaw, end of 2012. Back in this day my dating life was at peak power. And well overdue, if you ask me. I spent the first year of this “self-improvement” process in 2008, and the
Overcoming Psychological Plateaus Read More »
I’m writing this on a plane, traveling across Indian Ocean. By the time you guys get it, however, I’ll be at my final destination. Tasmania. I’ve always had a weird things for islands, particularly temperate or subarctic ones. The more remote the better. I always took this to be (one of many) weird things about
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Although I’m very tuned into the modern dating scene, with its trials and tribulations, I have a bit of a confession to make. It’s a silly thing, really. But I’m so focused on the “deep” end of things with most of my clients, I have forgotten of late to mention one of the most important
Why My Clients Are Angry With Me Read More »
I can tell you pretty directly what kind of people absolutely suck at having healthy relationships. It shouldn’t be surprising.In fact, it’s so boring that I feel stupid typing it. But, it bears mentioning… since 99% of the shit I see the monkeys throwing around the interwebs directly contradicts it. Everyone is so focused on
I Can Help You Find “The One” Pretty Easily Read More »
The last email I sent out was a little nuts. I revealed some super nerdy, strange things about myself. The sort of things that aren’t (allegedly) good for sales. (A reminder: I spent 2 days trying to modify a WW2 strategy board game so it would be more historically accurate and “better.” Wait, why did
Why I Air My Dirty Laundry In Your Noses Read More »
It’s become apparent over the years that my style is quite different from most of the typical dating coaches. Despite the evolution of “the industry” away from negs, canned PUA routines, etc… people are still grounding themselves in the numbers game. More focus on strategy (physique, lifestyle, masculinity) vs tactics (peacocking, status-faking, game), but still
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“I admire hard work. But it isn’t my gift. And while I will continue to improve my discipline… it never will be. Only once I accepted this did I start to make money. Who understands why?” I tweeted this out the other day and promised to explain why on here (I save the best of
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