Caught up with an old pal the other week and I was interested to hear a little update in his romantic life. So my friend has been close to this girl for years. She’s a sweet girl, and attractive. Early on he liked her. But though they flirted a bit, in the end she’d always […]
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A brief recap before we dive into the final element. So far we’ve talked about Curiosity and Standards. Curiosity is what you lead with — it’s an open “perception,” that allows you to learn and have fun with the person. Standards are what tempers the Curiosity. It’s a closed “judgment.” It sets the frame of
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Yesterday we talked about curiosity and its importance in avoiding transactional dating. But a lot of guys with good game know to approach women with curiosity. And it doesn’t necessarily ensure an interaction isn’t going to go a superficial route, where the girl is flaking and behaving poorly. Which is why element numero dos is
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The first problem I see with clients which leads them down the path of transactional dating is simple, but frequently overlooked. And it starts with the most common question I get asked. “What do I say to her?” I’ll just be blunt: this is the WRONG question to ask. I know a lot of guys
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One of my clients today listening to my talk at the Men of Character Conference, and was asking me about some inferences I made about “intuitively” approaching women. This guy noticed something insightful. Something I didn’t even fully realize I was doing. (It’s reasons like this that I love coaching, by the way. My clients
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It happened to me almost incidentally. But one day I woke up and just had it. Of course, this wasn’t really an out-of-the-blue thing. It was a shift over a long progression of years. A changing of beliefs. A rewiring. I am of course talking about Frame. (Read: What Is Frame?) There were a couple
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A big problem with black-white thinking on relationships is there is an assumption that all “beta” styled relationships are the same… and that the same approach will work for each of them. There are two types I see commonly. The first is the “best friends” dynamic. This is a relationship characterized but trust and comfort.
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One way I like to think I’m different from other dating coaches is I try to be honest about guys expectations going in. For instance, while some marketers will tell you all you need is to “follow my secret system to get women effortlessly”… I know that is complete garbage ad-copy designed to take your money
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One common gripe men to have, especially when they enter “the sphere,” is the idea that a woman will sleep with some guys immediately, while “waiting” for guys she actually wants to date seriously. (Commonly referred to as “alpha fux, beta bux”) I am very sympathetic to this complaint. It’s kind of fucked up that
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This email has been requested for awhile, so as promised here it is. But I will WARN you, this is for people who want to understand personality, which is not fluff… this requires mental effort, so don’t read it if you’re looking for a quick easy read. As many of you know I’m an ENTP.
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