So on Saturday I talked about some problems with online dating. And why I’m not a big fan of it for most of you. But remember… you are talking to Pat “There’s Nuance To This” Stedman. As you might expect, there are exceptions. The first is if you’re just looking for “no strings attached” sex. If this […]
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So yesterday we got to a lot of talking about online dating on Twitter. As many of you saw, my takes were not particularly positive on the phenomenon. I likened it to “getting food at a supermarket” vs approaching girls (more like hunting) or meeting girls through your social circle (raising them on a farm). The latter
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Every now and then I’ll run into something that fascinates me. These are guys with all of their shit together. Know the importance of taking action in business, health… And yet.. when it comes time to their love life? Something tragic happens to them… for instance, they just got cheated on. And so they vent,
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So yesterday’s email on energy had a little section on responding to another guy’s advances on your woman. To quote: “But there are times a little dose of dark energy can be useful. For instance, let’s say in general you’re a pretty chill, confident guy… not possessive, and so not jealous about your woman. An
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The following is about some interesting concepts I got from my business coach the other week. (who I believe appropriated it from a book, dunno the title) Anyway, it’s been on my mind… and after I mentioned this on Twitter a few days ago, a couple of you were curious for elaboration. So here goes:
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One thing you see quite a bit today are the culturally enforced archetypes of the “strong, confident woman” and the guy “in touch with his sensitivity.” Now, if you’re on this list I probably don’t have to explain too much of why this stuff is not to be emulated. “Strong” women are weak, and “compassionate”
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So yesterday I put out an email some might have considered harsh towards women who had “daddy issues.” Which is why today I want to talk about something I have found to be an extreme issue with many of my clients… yet no one has talked about in our usual internet circles. I’m referring to
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One of my former clients was in the city the other day, and we got to chatting about the role of mothers vs fathers in a person… and which is more important for their development. Conventional wisdom indicates this is the mother. And maybe that’s true. The mother is generally the one who facilitates emotional
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So catching up on old topics… last week I sent out this tweet re: stoicism: It got mostly a good response, but a couple of people disagreed. They found they did much better with women as they became more stoic. Why the discrepancy? Well, to an extent, it’s definitional. Stoicism means different things to different
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My boy Laz tweeted this gem the other day, which brought something to mind: (btw, sign up for his free weekly socialite magazine if you haven’t yet) It’s a tragedy, really. But the vast majority of dating advice for men is still in many ways stuck in the late aughts. PUA heavy advice on game, seduction…
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