As anyone who watches my periscopes knows, I enjoy my wine. It’s a great joy to my life… the diversity of producers, terroir, vintage, varietal, etc. produces endless flavors, and each bottle is a new experience. And yet, wine has its drawbacks… to the extent I am already cutting back on drinking it. Wine is alcohol, and […]
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This might be a weird one for some of you, but after tweeting this out this morning, thought I’d elaborate: As I get deeper and deeper into energy and intimacy, I’ve started to think more about what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. There is a polarity
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An occasional concern I get from prospective clients is whether there is going to be “actionable advice” in our workings together. They know I get “deep work” and know my stuff about women… but will I tell them specifically what to do and say to a girl? Are they gonna get the right homework assignments, and systems
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Could use some guidance on this… I have a black girlfriend. We’ve been dating 6 weeks and everything has been great. Deep connection. Aligned values. Undeniable physical attraction. It’s the most heart centered relationship of my life. We were driving on Saturday and she saw a Trump 2020 sign & cracked a joke. She then
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Hey Pat, I was wondering if you’d be able to help with a small annoyance with my girlfriend before it turns into a problem. Here it goes, I understand if there’s only so much you’re willing to do. The short story is that every time my girlfriend and I aren’t in physical proximity with one another
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There’s a reason I’m a dating AND relationship coach. These two subject areas, while obviously overlapping, are in fact quite different. Something that becomes VERY apparent as a married guy (who had a LOT of experience dating)… when I see the regular commentary of manosphere bros asserting things that work in a casual context will
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A reader writes in: Hi Pat, I just had a major realization, that I’ve been living (to some extent) within the “frame” of a close male friend. E.g. seeking validation, following his lead in things. #nohomo Have you ever written about this, or have tips for how to build your own frame? — I’ve written about ditching
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One thing that seems incomprehensible, and indeed threatens permanent resentment for many “recovering nice guys” is why — despite all the kind things they did — the women they loved and cared for could act so cruel to them. These are guys who were, on paper, the perfect boyfriends — they were considerate, generous, patient.
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One of the topics I’ve “pioneered” in the manosphere is the concept of “Girl Game” — the things women do to seduce men, and how men need to protect themselves accordingly. And because so few gurus talk about it — most guys are concerned with gaming women, not preventing themselves from being gamed (a big mistake) —
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Hey Pat,I appreciate your work, it has seriously helped me better my life. But I’d like your help with a situation I’m in right now. Last Friday, after dating for 4 months, I told my girlfriend I love her. She responded saying she loves me too. But on our most recent date, she told me
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