Last September I took a week off to hike 80 miles of the Appalachian Trail, from the start of the Delaware Water Gap in NJ to Greenwood Lake, NY. Not such a tough hike, really. Even amateurs manage 15 miles a day up and downhill — I would be averaging only 11-12 — and this […]
A situation happened with a client the other day that was very instructive and worth sharing. Cutting to the chase: My client had been dating a girl for a few months. Dynamic was pretty solid — they had great conversational chemistry, sex was good, and values were in line. She liked him, he liked her,
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Many of you asked for me to expand on this tweet from the other day: But really, what else is there to say? This is one of those observations that gathers much of its power through its simplicity. Take a moment and consider how it applies to your own life. What are you not yet ready to
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In the last email we talked about women who want to “be married” but don’t think so much about being a wife. And yet there needs to be an addendum to this… as men have their own problem in this department. Hang around the manosphere long enough and you’ll begin to think women want a
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The magnificent Shawn T Smith made a very interesting comment the other day: Which inspired me to produce my own version: Does she want to get married, or does she want to be a wife? Something not very polite to talk about these days. Sounds misogynistic just stating it. “What do you mean, that women have to act
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A reader writes in: Hey Pat, Been following you for a while now, am a big fan of your way of insights and way of thinking and since I’m facing an important dilemma right now, I thought to myself “why not” and decided to message you. I don’t know if you also answer these, if
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It’s a pretty frequent problem you hear a couple years into a romance. Guy’s with a great girl. But as the prospect of commitment looms, he struggles with “pulling the trigger.” He starts to fantasize about other girls… or at least the idea of them. “Maybe I just need to bang a few more…” The only
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Received some mixed reviews as you might expect in Part 1. Some guys related to it wholeheartedly. Others considered the whole scenario dishonorable. I get it. I’d be lying if I said these are black and white scenarios. Breaking into someone else’s relationship is always going to be a controversial topic. But a couple of
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Interesting situation occurring recently with one of my clients. Something that might be controversial for many of you… yet is I believe important to address. The backstory: My client is an attractive, confident guy. High energy. Recently out of a divorce but has processed what went wrong and is angling for a better future. At
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In self-improvement circles, there’s a generally healthy competition among men to out-earn, out-learn, out-lift, and of course out-fuck each other. Which is fine. If you need to keep tangible metrics, all of these ones are understandable. Indeed, you would think making more, knowing more, lifting more, and fucking more are all signs of “winning.” Yet there are
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