The first problem I see with clients which leads them down the path of transactional dating is simple, but frequently overlooked. And it starts with the most common question I get asked. “What do I say to her?” I’ll just be blunt: this is the WRONG question to ask. I know a lot of guys […]
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One of my clients today listening to my talk at the Men of Character Conference, and was asking me about some inferences I made about “intuitively” approaching women. This guy noticed something insightful. Something I didn’t even fully realize I was doing. (It’s reasons like this that I love coaching, by the way. My clients
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It happened to me almost incidentally. But one day I woke up and just had it. Of course, this wasn’t really an out-of-the-blue thing. It was a shift over a long progression of years. A changing of beliefs. A rewiring. I am of course talking about Frame. (Read: What Is Frame?) There were a couple
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You guys have been asking a lot about MBTI personality types these days. But I’ve demurred quite a bit on the subject. Not because I won’t talk about it.But it’s a big rabbit hole, and I don’t want it to consume the content of my work. MBTI is something that has been VERY useful for working with
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I find myself beating a dead horse in here sometimes, but today’s topic is something obvious… and yet ignored by guys trying to improve with women nonstop. And to be fair, it’s not their fault. Conventional wisdom in the “pick up” space tells you to really push your interactions with women when you’re getting started.
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One thing I used to do when I was younger and studying the art of the approach was binge-watch pick up videos online. I remember being enamored by them. Guys going up to pretty women they didn’t know, and grabbing their number. These girls were laughing. Smiling. And the guy was smooth as silk. I
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An account the other day (he shall not be named, got no issues with him) put out a note along the lines of: “if she makes you wait for sex, you’re not alpha.” I see this stuff a lot — no surprise, as it makes for good Twitter fodder. But it is really hilarious to
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People have been asking quite a bit, so more of these emails will focus on how personality type and attraction. Ergo, it makes sense to start with the types that started the “attraction industry”: the ISTP and INTP. These types, particularly the INTP, are the types that created Pick Up. And they remain the ones
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An acquaintance sent out a message to her group chat the other day that I found very interesting. (yes, I have spies who share such things with me) A little background on said woman before we dive in: She had been dating a guy who was poly, but the relationships was dysfunctional and eventually ended…
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The other day one of my followers retweeted some girl talking about choosing the yolo lifestyle. I can’t see the tweet anymore cause she deleted it (I take responsibility for inadvertently sicking my troll followers on her, causing her to carpet-block). But, it was basically her stating she’s “matured” past her 15 year old self which
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