The other night I was out with a post-gala crew. And a girl in the group was complaining. (go figure) Her boyfriend was an investment banker and was working long hours… to the point where it was her 30th birthday, and he wasn’t coming out. I understood his side of the situation, of course. They […]
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One reason I caution anyone to think in black and white about women is personality type. As we have said time and time again: all women are hypergamous, but all women do not manifest their hypergamy the same way. So while your average ESFJ female might lose interest if you chased and persisted through obstacles, your
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So as should be common knowledge if you’re on this list by now, masculinity and femininity are downstream of universal “sex impulses,” and determine the sexual polarity in a relationship. And it should also be clear that there are different personalities, and some get along better than others (both individually, and structurally). But there is
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“Hi Pat. I hope you’re well. I was just reading the Mary Magdalen section in “The Way Forward” that reminded me of a question I asked Mr. Tomassi. I’d very much enjoy your answer to the same question. “Hi Rollo. I’ve been meaning to ask you about something that’s bothered me a bit about some
I remember as a teenager, meandering through the Cherry Hill Mall (shout out to South Jersey!), always feeling strange when walking by Victoria’s Secret. The place has a “forbidden” element to it. It was for women. Given the models and lingerie everywhere, you were a “pervert” if — as a man — you went in
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As many of you know, after an embarassing hiatus, I’ve returned to the gym — under the tutelage of the great Mike Vacanti (Mike’s the one who got Gary Vaynerchuck into shape) Things have been going pretty well. Can’t tell if he’s buttering me up or not but my progress has been allegedly pretty great.
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Friday night I put out in passing on Twitter: “Joke with your kids if you want them to develop their instincts.” The thought crossed my mind as I had finally found a parking space in a cozy little alley, deep in old italian South Philly. This neighborhood is “gentrifying,” but still has a lot of the
Caught up with an old pal the other week and I was interested to hear a little update in his romantic life. So my friend has been close to this girl for years. She’s a sweet girl, and attractive. Early on he liked her. But though they flirted a bit, in the end she’d always
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A brief recap before we dive into the final element. So far we’ve talked about Curiosity and Standards. Curiosity is what you lead with — it’s an open “perception,” that allows you to learn and have fun with the person. Standards are what tempers the Curiosity. It’s a closed “judgment.” It sets the frame of
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Yesterday we talked about curiosity and its importance in avoiding transactional dating. But a lot of guys with good game know to approach women with curiosity. And it doesn’t necessarily ensure an interaction isn’t going to go a superficial route, where the girl is flaking and behaving poorly. Which is why element numero dos is
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