It goes without saying there is an enormous amount of debate within the dating world about “how to attract women.” Everybody’s got a different philosophy. Some swear by game, and think it’s a requirement to get women. Some believe you need to have a ripped body and fat wallet. And still others believe things “just […]
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One thing you see quite a bit today are the culturally enforced archetypes of the “strong, confident woman” and the guy “in touch with his sensitivity.” Now, if you’re on this list I probably don’t have to explain too much of why this stuff is not to be emulated. “Strong” women are weak, and “compassionate”
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So yesterday I put out an email some might have considered harsh towards women who had “daddy issues.” Which is why today I want to talk about something I have found to be an extreme issue with many of my clients… yet no one has talked about in our usual internet circles. I’m referring to
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One of my former clients was in the city the other day, and we got to chatting about the role of mothers vs fathers in a person… and which is more important for their development. Conventional wisdom indicates this is the mother. And maybe that’s true. The mother is generally the one who facilitates emotional
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So catching up on old topics… last week I sent out this tweet re: stoicism: It got mostly a good response, but a couple of people disagreed. They found they did much better with women as they became more stoic. Why the discrepancy? Well, to an extent, it’s definitional. Stoicism means different things to different
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My boy Laz tweeted this gem the other day, which brought something to mind: (btw, sign up for his free weekly socialite magazine if you haven’t yet) It’s a tragedy, really. But the vast majority of dating advice for men is still in many ways stuck in the late aughts. PUA heavy advice on game, seduction…
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I tweeted this out last week and it got some attention… though not as much as it should have. (it’s usually like that on Twitter) But to be fair, a lot of people were confused by it. So let’s address that. Boundaries > Tension > Intimacy is the formula for how a romantic interaction progresses.
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Spoiler alert: we’re talking about last week’s Game of Thrones episode today. Small scene that doesn’t have much bearing on the rest of the series though. I only mention it because it was promoted quite a bit after the episode premiered… with a lot of “you go girl, slayyyy” rhetoric around it. The gist: Cersei,
“If You Want A Whore, Buy Her. If You Want A Queen, Earn Her” Read More »
One thing I emphasize throughout my Tackling Texting book is that you should only text a girl under two criteria: – You’re setting up the date– You’re adding value (to set up the date) Details and tactics re: this in the book… but the basic reason is pretty simple. If you get caught texting with a girl without meeting
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The other day I received a question from a reader: “There’s a lady in my life who calls me her soulmate, who is sexually attracted to me (has said and demonstrated this) and who cannot let me go when I have repeatedly tried to pull away. All this, but she says there’s “a feeling” that
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