Now, before we go into the meat… a caveat. I am a cautious person with my time, and so even though what I’m about to tell you is an excellent date idea… I don’t per se recommend it as a first date. Reason being: first dates, especially when you don’t yet know the person, are […]
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So I had weird dream last night that I was being chased by a dinosaur. I was hiding under a rock in some cave. But wherever I went it seemed to sniff me out, get close… even though it never quite caught me. Eventually this chase took me to my childhood home, where I ran
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This is going to be an important email for many of you gents who are just getting into relationships. And unfortunately, it’s going to be a bit of a buzzkill. But, as a loving mentor my job is to give you what you need, not what you want. And I want to talk a bit
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It’s been much commented on that women today don’t know how to follow or surrender to men. Generally, there are two opinions on why this is. First is that women today have been programmed to be feminazis and associate such things with weakness instead of being naturally in tune with their femininity. Second is that
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Believe it or not, Pat Stedman isn’t always correct about dating. For instance, it occurred to me last week that something I had taken for granted as true was in fact a mixed bag. What’s this something, you ask? The idea that big cities are always a better place to meet people. Now, to be fair to
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A good friend of mine sent me an article the other day. One which I very much enjoyed reading… though it didn’t surprise me much. The gist? The idea that “80% of women are sleeping with 20% of guys” is garbage. Now, I don’t know how this idea got so much traction. All you have to
This was an offensive observation I made on a recent client call. One that some of you won’t like, and others of you will think makes perfect sense… even if it didn’t occur to you. But it’s something you can use off the bat to gauge whether or not a woman is likely going to be
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Read receipts, that is. Someone asked me this interesting question the other day… basically, what I think about them when it comes to texting a girl. (BTW buy my book, Tackling Texting, if you want to get good at this essential skill) Personally, I turn mine off. I don’t like a girl to know exactly
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So on Saturday I talked about some problems with online dating. And why I’m not a big fan of it for most of you. But remember… you are talking to Pat “There’s Nuance To This” Stedman. As you might expect, there are exceptions. The first is if you’re just looking for “no strings attached” sex. If this
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So yesterday we got to a lot of talking about online dating on Twitter. As many of you saw, my takes were not particularly positive on the phenomenon. I likened it to “getting food at a supermarket” vs approaching girls (more like hunting) or meeting girls through your social circle (raising them on a farm). The latter
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