A situation happened with a client the other day that was very instructive and worth sharing. Cutting to the chase: My client had been dating a girl for a few months. Dynamic was pretty solid — they had great conversational chemistry, sex was good, and values were in line. She liked him, he liked her, […]
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The magnificent Shawn T Smith made a very interesting comment the other day: Which inspired me to produce my own version: Does she want to get married, or does she want to be a wife? Something not very polite to talk about these days. Sounds misogynistic just stating it. “What do you mean, that women have to act
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A reader writes in: Hey Pat, Been following you for a while now, am a big fan of your way of insights and way of thinking and since I’m facing an important dilemma right now, I thought to myself “why not” and decided to message you. I don’t know if you also answer these, if
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Received some mixed reviews as you might expect in Part 1. Some guys related to it wholeheartedly. Others considered the whole scenario dishonorable. I get it. I’d be lying if I said these are black and white scenarios. Breaking into someone else’s relationship is always going to be a controversial topic. But a couple of
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Interesting situation occurring recently with one of my clients. Something that might be controversial for many of you… yet is I believe important to address. The backstory: My client is an attractive, confident guy. High energy. Recently out of a divorce but has processed what went wrong and is angling for a better future. At
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Tweeted this out the other day – it got a lot of traction and was asked to expand on it: Why did this tweet hit home? Methinks because it reconciled a dilemma a lot of guys face, and assume they need to tradeoff on: Their relationship with work and women. Now, I won’t deny that
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Received a question the other day re: one of my tweets: A lot of the nitty-gritty of this confusion comes down to definitions. So let’s attack this term “fantasy.” What does it really mean? I do not think it is useful to associate it with masculine and feminine ideals. Ideals are behaviors to strive for.
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That’s right, we’ve got a sex email for you today. Want to reveal some stuff from a conversation I had with a friend the other weekend, as it’s a question I get very often from clients: “I can’t last very long, how can I change this?” Well, while there are a lot of psychological reasons
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Been on a classic movie bender as of late. And I found myself all the way back in the 50s, comparing the two iconic actresses of that era… Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe. Very different archetypes of women… which we will be exploring shortly. What’s interesting is that Marilyn has been promoted more in the
The brilliant Taylor Burrowes had an interesting suggestion for young men last night: I love the rebellion against conventional dating wisdom, which is to grab dinner, drinks, or coffee with a girl early on. “Active” dates (aka during the day and involve you moving around) in contrast don’t usually get much love. But should they?In my humble opinion,
