Pat Stedman Blog

The Dangers Of Looking Too Good

Yesterday on Twitter I made some comments about a little strategy for guys who are “average” looking (or below) to get more girls when they go out. Well to sum up: “these guys should go out with attractive friends who aren’t particularly good with women. Girls will be much more open to your advances when

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Breakfast Club Romance

So to continue with these 80s movies themes, last week I also saw the Breakfast Club. Which turned out to be a very, very interesting exploration of sexual psychology. Let’s talk first about the biggest character in the film, Bender. Bender is a grungy, edgy guy who dresses like a rockstar, does drugs, disrespects authority,

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She Had It Coming

So a story I heard the other day… A family friend recently a cancer scare.And though he came out of it alive… it made him question some life choices. You see, this guy had 3 grown kids and a wife. Or should I say, a “long time live in girlfriend”… since they never formally married

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Why I Decided To Get Married

I got asked this question a bit ago surprisingly not from one of you dear gentlemen, but @sarahjeangosney (follow if you want to see what healthy female self-improvement looks like). Cutting to the chase… the truth is, I didn’t make my decision as most guys say you should. I didn’t do a long trial period

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