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The Problem With “Dominant” Men

Well, the response to yesterday’s email was certainly interesting. Got a couple disagreements, though these were well-reasoned and cordial, as well a large amount of compliments. But that tends to be a pretty normal response if we’re being honest. What was most interesting about the last email was the disproportionately high number of women writing

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He’s Vulnerable, Sensitive… and She Follows His Lead?

I received an interesting, complicated question I’ll try to distill here for you… because it’s a very important topic. Basically, the question revolved around how you were supposed to maintain the frame with a woman while being vulnerable… and if it ever made sense to “drop frame.” (For those just joining us on this concept, check out

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How To Revive A Dead Bedroom

So I got a question from a reader yesterday about a very classic issue: how to “spice up” things in a long term relationship, where the sex has become routine and stagnant… (Example: woman wants sex the same way every time, doesn’t want to show parts of her body anymore etc… meanwhile guy wants to

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