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What To Do When A Girl Flakes

A tweet went viral the other day, which led to some pretty interesting differences in opinion: As you might have expected, a lot of guys — including yours truly — were throwing it back at her. This woman cancelled minutes before a date and thought the guy had a problem because it bothered him. You will hardly

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The Two Types Of Rejection

Was talking to a client last week, and he brought up an interesting problem. First, a little context: This client is crushing it with women. He’s a day game monster, approaching very often 20+ women each week. He shows up weekly to calls, is honest and introspective, and takes enormous action. He’s not at an elite

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Is Romance Dead?

An interesting tweet by Michael Sebastian got some traction yesterday, as did my response: Going to elaborate on it, because I think it’s something trad guys in particular struggle to understand about attraction. Cutting to the point: People have all sorts of dumb fantasies about what women used to want, as if female desire has

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The Problem With Hot Girls

One of the easiest ways to weed out the dummies (or at least inexperienced amateurs) in the dating community is to what extent they fixate on getting 9s and 10s as their “ultimate goal” when it comes to women. This may seem counterintuitive at first glance. But there are a couple of reasons. First, obsession

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How To Move On From A Breakup

Got a question from a subscriber the other day, more or less asking the above. It’s a bit of a general question, and so is probably better answered in a blog post (maybe I will create one, one of these days…) But anyway, to spitball… The most important things you NEED to do after a

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Getting Her vs Keeping Her

One thing that really irks me about so many of the internet larpers, ebook scammers, and dime-a-dozen “love experts” is the ignorance and arrogance that their simple, one dimensional formula will solve all of your romantic issues. Guy who learns how to take girls home after meeting them knows “the secret” to owning a woman’s

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