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Is This Guy A “Beta”?

A thread “To My Future Girlfriend” went around a week or so back, which I bookmarked to talk about: The thread actual goes on, but you get the picture. At first blush it looks pretty cheesy — you might say as “blue pill” as content comes. This guy is talking about all the different ways […]

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Are Women The Prize?

Was asked to comment about this thread: And I think I know the reason why. Our community is very much about thinking and acting like you are “the prize.” Viewed through a certain lens, this thread about women “knowing their value and acting like it” seems very feminist. But the truth is that I don’t really

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How Alpha Widowing Works

Saw a very tragic story in the Relationship Reddit, one I wanted to comment on: Most of the comments are directed against this guy — like he is the “bad one” here. And I get it. He lost his temper, he was mean to her, he scared her. But at the risk of sounding like some people

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Why I Don’t Read Books

Very often I’ve been asked what books have influenced my thinking around women. And I feel like people have been rather disappointed by my response. You see, I don’t read that much. At least not in a “formal” sense. Ok, I read a TON. But my material is diffuse — there’s no real organization to this.

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Stuck Hooking Up With An Ex

A reader writes in: Hey Pat — I’d like some advice on an ex girlfriend. I’m an INTP and enneagram type 5 if that may help. Personally, I don’t have much trouble getting girls or having sex with them but my ex (only girl I have been a relationship with in the last 5 years

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