Pat Stedman Blog

What’s Behind The Shit-Test

Had a chat with the controversial reddit red piller “GayLubeOil” the other day, where he reminded me of a very interesting concept surrounding women One that used to get quite a bit of attention from academics and psychologists back in the day… but has been strangely neglected in our little community. I’m talking about HYSTERIA. […]

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Interview with Jack Donovan

In case you missed it, my interview with Jack Donovan is live. It was an honor to be on the show. For those who don’t know, Jack Donovan is probably one of the foremost experts in the world on male tribalism and psychology. He’s influenced an ENORMOUS number of ideas that we take for granted

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When Should You Ask Her Out?

A reader writes in: Hey Pat, Thanks for all the valuable content you put out. I‘m curious about your opinion on the situation I am in with a girl currently. I’m sure it’s pretty common amongst guys. I’ve been hanging out and having sex with a girl about 3 times a week for the past 3

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Love In A Time of Coronavirus

Apologies for the lack of emails of late. My mind, like many of yours, has been towards family and unravelling the mystery of this virus and what’s in store for society. Those of you who follow me on Twitter know that I’ve been going into some of my observations about the weird shit actually going (per

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The Art of the Neg

I received this question earlier today on a delicate yet important topic: Hey Pat, where does the nuance lie between teasing and insulting? I’m having to think about this consciously because I only regularly tease girls I have no interest in, now having to consciously think about it with a girl I like makes me

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Which Girl Should You Choose?

A reader writes in: Should you aim for compatibility / a best friend, OR should you aim for someone where there is that instant sincere love (that warm feeling you get when you’re with family) That’s the short question. The backstory is I have a girl I’ve dated on and off for about 5 years

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The Good Thing About Affairs

I recently learned an acquaintance of mine is having an affair. Fortunately, right now it’s mostly emotional. There’s been just a few brief episodes of kissing — nothing more. But he’s really on the precipice. Things can’t stay in limbo: he’s either going to end this dalliance, or he’s going to indulge it. And once

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The Sixth Love Language

An interesting article was posted in our client-only group the other day I recommend you give it a read, but to summarize the argument… in addition to the classic five love languages defined by Gary Chapman (acts of service, gifts, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation), the author notes that there is a sixth: distance. Cutting to

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