The brilliant Taylor Burrowes had an interesting suggestion for young men last night: I love the rebellion against conventional dating wisdom, which is to grab dinner, drinks, or coffee with a girl early on. “Active” dates (aka during the day and involve you moving around) in contrast don’t usually get much love. But should they?In my humble opinion, […]
As most of you know, I got into a little trouble recently. Won’t talk about the details, for reasons I’m sure you can appreciate. But this event’s gotten a lot of media attention, which has made me a bit “infamous” in some quarters… something interesting to witness both personally and professionally. When your name gets
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Hope you enjoyed yesterday’s breakdown of the men in Sixteen Candles. But there was another element I wanted to mention from the film… Because while it’s fun and useful to talk about archetypes, the reality is that movies are a snapshot in time. They don’t capture an individual’s growth, or the evolution of a relationship. They take a moment,
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So last week in NYC, I decide to go back in time and watch some old films. One of which is the classic, Sixteen Candles. Now, I know this is embarrassing… but this was actually the first time I’d seen the film. Interestingly, the first “high school drama” I ever saw was the parody, “Not Another
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Got a question from the great Matias about something I tweeted last fall: There are two parts to the answer. But first, we need to make a distinction. Because there is a difference between GENERAL procrastination and SPECIFIC procrastination. General procrastination is an AVOIDANCE pattern. It’s an indication that there is a part of you who does
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David had me on the arensal podcast – we go deep into this blog post and more. Check out the show!
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A about a month ago, one of the big daygamers on Twitter, @broodingsea wrote about the end of a fling he had with a girl.I recommend you read the post… it’s very heartfelt and genuine, and most importantly gives you a taste of REALITY when it comes to dating. You see a lot of guys
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Listen to a lot of mainstream or new age relationship advice, and they will tell you that the secret to a healthy relationship is to communicate. And truth be told, they’re right. Some level of “game playing” may have a role early on in a romantic dalliance — you don’t want to come on too strong after
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Had a question crop up by @jaguarness the other day I wanted to get to, as it’s one many guys struggle with: My answer? Well, obviously it is a fine line, and getting it right is mostly a calibration issue. Guys who aren’t used to being a little cocky will likely overdo it at first
