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Emotional Cheating

One term that always confused me a bit was “emotional cheating.” Maybe confused isn’t the right word, but the whole thing seemed a bit weird. Is it when someone gets close to regular cheating but holds themselves back? Is it simply a lesser form of cheating? Or is it something else entirely? I’ve started to […]

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No New Friends

As many of you might remember, I’ve got a thing for DJ Khaled. The dude absolutely fascinates me. Got to be one of the dumbest celebrities yet one of the most authentic and in-tune with himself. Anyway, another riff on the guy. One of his popular (albeit not sensational) songs is “No New Friends.” Basically, the

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Is Seduction Masculine?

About a year ago I wrote a two-part article on the difference between Dominance and Seduction. (Read: Part 1 & Part 2) It’s a topic that fascinates me to this day. The main question that still remains for me is how it plays into game. Let me take you down my line of inquiry… I consider both Dominance

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How To Look At A Woman

“A woman can tell if you’re assessing her or leering” Some guy, I believe @huntfored, said something along those lines the other day. (Great account to follow if you haven’t already – he’s basically the wise yet jaded, reformed hedonist. Dark, incredible insights into female nature.) It’s an important distinction. Girls LOVE being “assessed” —

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3 Ways To Handle Relationship Issues

One thing that gets talked up a lot in more “mainstream” dating advice circles is communication. Got a problem? Express it. Be vulnerable. Be open. Of course, as we know, men need to be cautious when it comes to such advice. Vulnerability is best expressed from a position of strength, otherwise your masculinity will diminish in her eyes.  (To

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Mean Coaching

I’ve been having an issue with one client. We’ll go into that a bit below, but first a little precursor on my coaching so you know the scene. One of the big things I do in my coaching practice is “deep work.”  It’s something I pride myself on: long conversations with the client, psychotherapeutical in

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F*Ck Like A Philly Fan

As many of you know I’m from around Philadelphia. And though I’ve moved onto NYC I return often — it’s still my home. One such return was this past weekend for Super Bowl LII. I was determined not to miss this. Back in 2008 I was living in Philadelphia when the Phillies won the World

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Doping for Dopamine

Hang around the self-improvement community for even a little and you’ll start to audit your life on an almost unconscious basis. You’ll realize which behaviors are helpful, which are self-destructive, and you’ll think almost incessantly how to cultivate the former and stop the latter. It takes a bit more time to learn this is not

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The Real Cause Of Alpha

Yesterday I talked a bit on Twitter about an interesting topic for men: sexual shame. I don’t mention sexual shame very often, which is strange really, since it’s a cornerstone piece of the work I do with my coaching clients. But I want to explore it a bit today — not only because it’s a key

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