A reader writes in: Hey Pat, Been following you for a while now, am a big fan of your way of insights and way of thinking and since I’m facing an important dilemma right now, I thought to myself “why not” and decided to message you. I don’t know if you also answer these, if […]
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It’s a pretty frequent problem you hear a couple years into a romance. Guy’s with a great girl. But as the prospect of commitment looms, he struggles with “pulling the trigger.” He starts to fantasize about other girls… or at least the idea of them. “Maybe I just need to bang a few more…” The only
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Received some mixed reviews as you might expect in Part 1. Some guys related to it wholeheartedly. Others considered the whole scenario dishonorable. I get it. I’d be lying if I said these are black and white scenarios. Breaking into someone else’s relationship is always going to be a controversial topic. But a couple of
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Interesting situation occurring recently with one of my clients. Something that might be controversial for many of you… yet is I believe important to address. The backstory: My client is an attractive, confident guy. High energy. Recently out of a divorce but has processed what went wrong and is angling for a better future. At
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In self-improvement circles, there’s a generally healthy competition among men to out-earn, out-learn, out-lift, and of course out-fuck each other. Which is fine. If you need to keep tangible metrics, all of these ones are understandable. Indeed, you would think making more, knowing more, lifting more, and fucking more are all signs of “winning.” Yet there are
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Tweeted this out the other day – it got a lot of traction and was asked to expand on it: Why did this tweet hit home? Methinks because it reconciled a dilemma a lot of guys face, and assume they need to tradeoff on: Their relationship with work and women. Now, I won’t deny that
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Tweeted out something very banal the other day, yet unsurprisingly I suppose it hit a nerve: Because I received a slew of responses from the usual anon accounts with some old statue or painting as their avi — or maybe if you’re lucky a set of abs — emphasizing the usual “women are never too exhausted
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Received a question the other day re: one of my tweets: A lot of the nitty-gritty of this confusion comes down to definitions. So let’s attack this term “fantasy.” What does it really mean? I do not think it is useful to associate it with masculine and feminine ideals. Ideals are behaviors to strive for.
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That’s right, we’ve got a sex email for you today. Want to reveal some stuff from a conversation I had with a friend the other weekend, as it’s a question I get very often from clients: “I can’t last very long, how can I change this?” Well, while there are a lot of psychological reasons
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Been on a classic movie bender as of late. And I found myself all the way back in the 50s, comparing the two iconic actresses of that era… Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe. Very different archetypes of women… which we will be exploring shortly. What’s interesting is that Marilyn has been promoted more in the
