Short email here, since we’ve got another one coming out later this afternoon.
So got asked this fun question a few days ago from a former client:
What is the fundamental issue men who are struggling with women all have in common?
I’ll cut right to the chase…
To be honest, I’m not sure there is ONE issue… at least practically speaking.
Some guys are weak leaders, some are boring, some lack strength, others lack (self)love.
But perhaps there is some aspect that connects all of these things…
Something that makes it nearly impossible to have a good relationship with women…
Fear.
Weren’t expecting that, were you?
But here’s why it’s true.
Fear stops you from doing all the above.
Men are bad leaders because they’re afraid of responsibility.
Men are boring because they’re afraid to get out of their comfort zone.
Men are weak because they’re afraid of risks it takes to become strong.
Men lack love because they’re terrified of opening themselves up to rejection and loss.
As they say in Dune: Fear is the mind killer.
Fear of failure, fear of success.
Now, can you help feeling afraid?
Not really, at least at first.
But that’s OK.
Because to be attractive to women you don’t need to be fearless.
You just need to be brave.
Which means confronting your fears wherever they show up.
Whether internal or external.
Remember, courage isn’t never feeling fear. It’s acting in spite of it.
(Which incidentally, makes you actually become fearless in time)
Anyway, what does this have to do with you and me?
Simple:
My coaching makes you aware of your fears and forces you to confront them.
Because the truth is, many things you’re afraid of are “unconscious” and to the extent you’re aware of them at all… you’re only aware of the tip of the iceberg.
Not how deep it goes.
Which is a problem, because it’s the bottom of an iceberg that sinks the ships that glide past it.
You need to cut it out with the lies you tell yourself about why you do X or Y when it comes to women.
You need to be honest… you need to acknowledge the enemy. Because only then can you defeat him.
Which is why you should probably work with me.
Because not only will I call out the elephants in the room, and MAKE you deal with them.
But I’ll show you exactly how.
The fastest and most effective ways to get to the next level.
(All while bolstering your confidence in the process)
The only catch?
Well, there are 2.
You gotta pay (obviously). Though the price in years is more than worth it.Y
ou gotta actually want to change.
Because I know we don’t want to admit *this* elephant.
But many are you are addicted to misery.
You jerk off to self-improvement content and platitudes…
But do you actually want your life to be different?
My experience is most people are full of shit…
It’s one thing to talk.
But to take action, and put money behind that action…
Rare company.
(And the ones guaranteed to change)
Apply here if you want to be one of them: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
