Last week I did a bit of a “binge” on 80s movies… an era of cult classic “coming of age” films.
One I hadn’t seen in easily a decade was Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.
And man was I glad I revisited it.
A bit of a spoiler on the plot (I don’t feel bad, the movies like 30 years old)
Ferris Bueller, the most popular and loved kid in school, is trying to avoid class by feigning sickness, so he can go on an adventure with his best friend and girlfriend.
The movie revolves around the fun places he takes them during this “day off”… all while keeping his parents in the dark that he’s not at home, and avoiding his jealous sister and vengeful principle from catching him in the act.
It’s a wholesome, family fun movie about adolescent mischief.
What lessons could it possibly hold for us when it comes to women?
Many, if we’re being honest.
Ferris Bueller embodies all that is most attractive in a man.He’s an archetype of the cool and popular extrovert.
(Like most Hollywood protagonists, ESTP/ESFP… but we’ll set that aside for now)
But what makes Ferris different is he’s not just cool and handsome.
He’s loved.
Ferris has seduced his parents and everybody in town to care about him.
A lot of people are cool because they intimidate. They are “hard to reach.”
Ferris is different.
He makes people feel important… so much so that lowly Freshmen call him on the phone when they find out he’s “sick,” and start a drive to pay for his hospital bills.
Now of course this is a silly movie.
And we can’t expect many of these things to actually happen to a person in real life.
(The water tower was painted with “Save Ferris” when the kid skipped school. Don’t expect the same to happen to you when you skip work, no matter how liked you are at the office)
But distill these actions and you understand a key element of what it means to be an attractive figure.
You need to make people feel something when you’re around them.
Ferris has an incredibly strong personality, and he uses it to lighten up everyone’s life.
Ergo they want to be close to him. His presence just makes people feel better — he puts more fun in their life, more excitement, more confidence.
Now, you don’t have to do this in Ferris’ way, mind you.
Some guys make others feel strength. Imperiousness.
These guys are more intimidating… there is more of an awe around them.
(Introverts tend to prefer this route)
There’s more than one way to skin a cat when it comes to influence over people.
But the common thread is that you need to make them feel something.
But we are speaking generally here.
Truth is, Ferris also has a gorgeous girlfriend.
Who absolutely adores him.
How does Ferris accomplish this so effortlessly?
This is the point I want you to really pay attention to…
Because Ferris doesn’t use “dread game” or anything to keep his girlfriend (Sloane) in line…
In fact, he’s loyal and dedicated to her… wants to marry her (despite the fact that he could be sleeping with other girls no problem)… and treats her very well, makes her feel important to him…
What does Ferris do that sets him apart?
Ferris embodies the energy of life.
Ferris is always down for an adventure, he’s positive and optimistic, resourceful… he is always moving, always having fun, and always able to handle whatever adversity comes in his way.
Ferris is confident, audacious… but most importantly, he is in the moment.
And it’s this sort of vibe, my friends, that women are absolutely addicted to.
Understand: women bear life.
And while they want a man who can help them protect that life… when it comes to sex, they want a guy who is going to have the most health and vitality in him.
This is why when you’re on the up and up you can expect women to start swarming you out of nowhere.
Women are addicted to positive energy.
They are universally attracted to men who are able to penetrate the world.
They want to sleep with you literally to take that life force out of you.
Which is why you must be careful… and know yourself well when it comes to committing… many men have lost their paths to do a woman’s desire to suck this energy out of them.
Anyway, so that’s Ferris.
But I know, unfortunately, many of you are not like Ferris.
In fact… you’re probably more like his best friend, who is constantly worried about doing or saying the wrong thing, is in his head, and struggles to “let go” and enjoy himself in the moment.
Afraid of doing things wrong… and would rather do nothing than mess it up.
Well, if that’s you I’ve got good news.
It can be changed.
Not overnight, but gradually, over a couple of months… provided you have the right support and guidance to “rewire” your mind out of that space.
Support and guidance like yours truly.
Is this service cheap?
Nope.
Because it’s not “advice.”
It’s changing the way you operate with women entirely.
Shedding your worst habits, and allowing parts of you that you never knew existed to flourish.
Because the truth is…
There’s a bit of Ferris Bueller in all of us.
We’ve all got some of that risk taking, fun loving confidence… the ability to live in the moment inside of us…
But if you’ve suppressed it, it’s just not going to come out.
And you’ll continue to live life on a more “grey,” dull, fearful plain… as opposed to a colorful, vibrant, fearless one.
Why would you want to continue like this?
I don’t know.
Actually I do… it’s the same reason you’re stuck in the mess to begin with.
Which is why working with a coach is always the first step to turning your life around.
It signals you’re actually committed to becoming a more open, confident, integrated person.
The question only remains… are you?
If so… apply here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
