The last email I sent out was a little nuts.
I revealed some super nerdy, strange things about myself.
The sort of things that aren’t (allegedly) good for sales.
(A reminder: I spent 2 days trying to modify a WW2 strategy board game so it would be more historically accurate and “better.” Wait, why did I just remind you?)
So maybe this whole thing bears an explanation. If I was “in it to win it,” I *should* be telling you how much money I make, how often I deadlift, take cold showers, eat steak, and have sex so you’ll listen to me…
But here’s the gist:
I don’t give a shit.
I find these little quirks about myself amusing. And yes, while I don’t endorse what I wasted time and mental energy on — revising the game became a thought loop, that took me very much out of the present moment with no real benefit — I also know that fucking up is part of being human.
There are still things I’m working through, many things, but unlike say 3 years ago when I started this business (or heaven forbid 10, when I started this journey) — I know they are bumps on the road, rather than detours.
I know where I am going and have 100% confidence that I will get where I want to be.
And in a not-so-long amount of time, at that.
Which brings me to the *real* reason I re-mention all of this…
No one’s perfect. Least of all me.
If I am not going through something now, I have gone through it… or likely will in the future.
I’ve seen my shadow, and it wasn’t pretty.
So if you’re afraid of addressing something, personal or romantic, because you are worried you’ll be judged… or are worried that addressing it will make it real… I got some good news and bad news for you.
First, the bad:
Running away from your problems is the WORST thing you can do.
You NEED to face them head on, and if you can’t be honest with yourself — and you sense this deep down — you need someone else to be honest for you.
Enter the good:
Moi.
Because there is literally nothing you can tell me that will make me think less of you.
“Safe spaces” in the public arena are pathetic — a social engineering project to make people weak — but the concept on a personal, intimate level is very important.
Some topics are difficult to hash out with friends, because they are incredibly shameful.
You need to get things off your chest… you need someone to be real with you… help guide you forward… but very few people have friends who can play all of those roles.
I will.
Anyway, if that speaks you, go here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
