Gonna harp a little more on the hypergamy fixation again today.
Not, as I’ve repeatedly emphasized, because it’s not true.
Because there’s something a lot of people miss when they talk about it.
Most consider hypergamy an indication of female amorality.
I think you can argue this, fairly.
But then you have to also look at men.
I used to work in investigations, and so I’ve studied the life story of many a CEO.
You’d be blown away how many cheat on their wives — the wives they “started at the bottom” with — for hotter, younger secretaries once they’re established.
(Many times they do this TWICE, getting married 3 times. President Donaldo is Exhibit A)
Now, I can’t say what was going on in their personal lives. Maybe the wives were a nag, or lost their femininity.
But I also can’t say what was going on when a woman decided to “branch swing.” Lot of guys who get left behind are really not showing up.
So maybe biology is amoral. But the door swings both ways.
No, this doesn’t mean I’m becoming a feminist (ha).
Just something to keep in mind.
Nature doesn’t care about men when they’re weak and useless, but it also doesn’t care about women when they’re old and ugly.
And unlike old and ugly women, you have a choice. You can change.
Women either strike gold or strike out.
Men make their fortune.
So even if culture has given women a leg up… (and it has, especially with the laws)
Stop complaining and be better.
And if you need help being better?
Consider working with me.
Feeling “inadequate” or unable to achieve your goals is a mental problem. You’ve got deep insecurities and limiting beliefs that are holding you back.
You need to sort them out to stop self-sabotaging.
And while you may not “need” a coach… one like me, who knows these patterns inside and out, will certainly help.
Here’s the link to apply: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
