Today’s topic is a little spicy.

We’ll be talking about the classic “1-10” ranking system that guys have for girls. And what the “Pat Stedman” version is… and why it matters.

But before we go in:

I know women hate this. Sorry. Not much else I can say though. This is a natural way men communicate about girls they’d dated / hooked up with. It seems somehow embedded in our psyche — there’s no real way around it. Gotta work with the software.

The problem, of course, is that every guys “software” has a different scale — so the numbers mean slightly different things to different guys, who on top of that also have their own type. Usually there is a “2 point subjective divergence” but in extreme cases one man’s 5 might be another man’s 8.

Ok. But what do these numbers mean for practical purposes?

For me it’s pretty simple:

1-3: Ugly. You are not interested in any of these girls and would never even hook up with them. If you do, you will either keep it secret or turn it into a joke for the guys.

4-5: Not attractive. If you happen to hook up with one of these girls they are usually situational one-offs that you’d shrug off. Some guys who claim “sex is sex” might see one of these girls regularly as a “fuck buddy” on the side, but you would not take her out publicly.

6: Cute, but not cute enough. These girls fall into “Tier 2” category and often will give you serious emotional dilemmas. You feel comfortable taking this girl out on dates and seeing her regularly, and you are definitely turned on by her. You might even have some feelings for her. But. On a certain level you feel like you are settling if you commit to her.

These girls end up in the “bangzone” often which is a very painful place for them to be.

7-8: Attractive/Hot. This is where you hit what I call “the threshold:” the minimum level of attractiveness required for a man to commit. After this you are just “running up the score” on looks, and most guys will rightly begin to prioritize other traits.

There is enough objective attractiveness to these girls that no one will accuse the guy of settling, even if they wouldn’t have chosen the girl themselves. “It’s his type.”

9-10: Really Hot/Stunning. Pretty much everyone acknowledges you “hit the jackpot.” If only they knew! These girls get so much attention they tend to be trouble to deal with.

Many guys who can get girls like this will date these types for years before “settling” for a 7-8 who causes them less aggravation.

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As you can glean, most of the stuff on this scale is kinda larpy. Do you want her or not? That’s the fundamental question.

But the reason the scale has proven useful is because of the 6-7 cusp.

One of the most common conversations I have with guys who are trying to “decide on a girl” is around this. They will say how she’s great, how sweet she is…

But you can hear the hesitation in their voice. They are trying to persuade themselves that they should want her. Sounds stupid, but it’s not until I say “she’s a 6 right” that they breath a sigh of relief.

The thing is there is nothing “bad” about how a 6 looks. She’s cute and will almost certainly be another man’s 7 or even 8.

Not yours though. And so the scale in the end gives clarity to these guys. Once a girl is identified as a “6” he can process his attraction for her properly and act according to the dynamic.

Anyway enough frat boy convo.

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– Pat