Just a brief email for you today. But wanted to address something that is not uncommon yet often confusing for guys.

As so indicated in the title, I’m referring to the strange phenomenon of when you have an ostensibly solid date with a girl, you kiss, and yet… she doesn’t want to see you again.

What’s going on?

Well, I suppose there are in fact a couple of reasons.

Maybe the kiss wasn’t that good… or you guys simply have different “styles.” She didn’t feel the energy in it. (You might remember that famous song by Betty Everett in 60s, covered by Cher later: “if you wanna know if he loves you so it’s in his kiss” — it ain’t a lie)

And yet, often a bad kiss is not enough of a reason for a girl to not see a guy she liked again. It may be a barrier for her committing, but she’ll often give a second chance — see if they just need to “work on it.”

More common when a girl bails after a kiss is because she though you were cute, and she enjoyed the date, but didn’t see a future between the two of you.

In other words:

She kissed you because she knew it would be the last time she’d see you, so she figured she might as well enjoy the moment.

Gentlemen, please understand…

Just because a woman allows physical escalation, it does NOT mean she is invested in you, or interested in anything with you longterm.

Women assess guys based on their ability to provide COMFORT and DESIRE.

Only comfort, she will friendzone you. Only desire, she will fuck you and disappear.

Some women compartmentalize and keep one of each of these guys around to get both their needs met. But the point is that women only REALLY fall for guys who provide both of these categories.

So, if you’re on a date with a girl, and she just doesn’t feel like there’s enough to build upon (comfort)… but she thinks your cute and fun (desire).

She may allow herself the luxury to enjoy the moment, especially if its something innocent that doesn’t compromise her too much like a kiss.

Of course, some women take this further and will fuck.

But hopefully you understand the principles are the same.

My recommendation?

These girls are often potential Tier 3 material, and you should friend zone them. Enjoy the evening, and then read the situation correctly, and tell them you think they’re cool but it wasn’t all there, and that you’d still like to be friends.

They will very often say yes because woman LOVE having guys around them who flirt by nature, as this makes them feel more attractive.

Anyway, the difficulty is in the ability to read said situations.

How to learn?

Probably the fastest and most effective way:

Work with me.

And I’d apply soon, too. Because when my website is revamped end of month, the packages will change again.

Which means less time with me, and higher prices per hour.

Why do I do this every year or so?

2 reasons:

I am better at what I do, and get results more efficiently.I only have so much time I can give.

So if this is something you’ve wanted to do, don’t put it off.

Apply here: www.patstedman.com/application

– Pat

PS In case you missed last night’s show: No Second Date, Bad Girl Flirting, Does Game Hurt Women?

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