People spout a lot of bullshit about “what women want.” But the one “claim” that not only annoys me but is actively DEPRESSING to hear is that “girls only care about money.”

Look, money is WONDERFUL to have (least of all women, if we’re being honest).

And money IS an amplifier of attraction.

But on its own, money doesn’t create desire.

Case in point:

Yes, this woman is your basic 21st century thot.

But she is speaking a major truth for all women.

Women want men who make them FEEL.

Now, we can talk about all sorts of aspects of attraction here today…

But I want to zoom in on one in particular.

Understand, she wasn’t attracted to that guy “living in a treehouse” or “eating out of a saucepan” because any of those traits we’re attractive.

(The latter certainly wasn’t)

But because those guys DID WHAT THEY WANTED and were having FUN.

They had ENERGY.

But most importantly, because his lack of self-consciousness made HER feel less self-conscious.

Which not only made the experience enjoyable, but the sex on another level.

We’re going to talk about some context around this in the next email.

But I want to stay on this point re: sex, because it’s one of the most important things guys — especially more conservative guys — forget.

One of the biggest impediments to sexual pleasure is shame.

And so if you want a girl to give you her all in bed, you need to allow her the space to ELIMINATE that shame.

It’s one of the major reasons when a woman gets out of shape in a marriage, the bedroom dies.

SHE becomes ashamed of HERSELF. So she wants to shutdown the whole sector. Now, a lot of guys do well when it comes to addressing body shame… or emotional shame…

But SEXUAL shame?

Not so much. Because we get jealous… and frankly are ashamed ourselves.

Anyway, the point is simple.

You need to get rid of that judgment — both for yourself and her — if you ever want to have great sex, and give a girl an unforgettable sexual experience.

No, that doesn’t mean you ignore a woman’s past when it comes to making “commitment” decisions on her.

But getting a woman to “give you her all” isn’t really about being first through the gates.

It’s about being the one who gives her the space to let go… so she can show you ALL of who she is.

That’s how you own not only her heart… but her pussy.

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– Pat