So one of the most consistent IOI’s (indicators of interest) you’ll see out there is eye contact.
Women who want you to approach will look at you. Women who really want you to approach will look at you, look down, and then look back again (the “peek back” as per Nick Sparks). And women who REALLY want you to approach will straight-up stare at you.But there is an exception to this rule.
Yes, there is a type of woman who will likely to give you an enormous amount of eye contact… but won’t let you go any further than that.
Who are these women?
Women in relationships.
So the exception is really only somewhat of an exception. Because these women ARE attracted. And they very well might enjoy your approach.
But not because they (usually) want anything more to come of it, but because they want your attention and want to be flattered.
This is all very interesting, but what I find particularly fascinating is why this is the case.
Why do “taken” women give STRONGER signals?
Well, because they can.A single woman who gives a strong signal is DESPERATE.
Many of you have run into these women before, and you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s awkward, and it’s a real turnoff.
But a woman who is in a relationship can give these signals because she’s playing with house money.
It’s a pretty powerful trap, tbh. Get a guy to think she’s really interested in him… only to then say “I have a boyfriend” and waste his time.
Indeed, it’s one of the major reasons why bachelorette parties are absolute DISASTERS to get involved with when you’re out and about.
The girls, including the bride-to-be, are very open and flirtatious with guys… but unless you’re dealing with real trash, all of this is a GAME to them. Nothing is going to happen, they are attention farming.
You also see this with many married women who hit up the club — they especially love the attention, because they’ve been out of the game for so long. It makes them feel hot again.
Anyway, do I think women usually do this stuff deliberately?
No, I don’t.
It’s just automatic for most of them.
But even if they did… I wouldn’t blame them. That’s the game.
That said, I want YOU gentlemen to be aware of what’s going on.And to leave you with a tip… because you can actually use these women’s game in your favor.
So let’s say you fall into one of these girls’ traps. You find out she’s already taken.
Your response should NOT be to try to pursue her there (even if you’re a scumbag and have a thing for taken women).
Instead, you friendzone her IMMEDIATELY and turn her into your wing woman.
There are a couple of reasons for this.
First, remember, these women are out there for ATTENTION. This is a way to flirt with them without tripping up their radar. “Oh cool, so you’re going to have to help me then.” Aside from the situational potential that they can help you open, if these girls are attractive in particular, it’s an opportunity to bump up your preselection in the environment.
(And yes, if you are still angling for her, it’s a great way to get closer to her and make yourself more attractive. Many hot girls act as “matchmakers” to test your actual value. How you act around other women — and how other women act around you — let’s her decide whether you’re worth a hook up)
But second, it’s a great way to warm up. Talking with women who finds you attractive while there are obvious barriers in place allows you to flirt without consequence. It’s an amazing way to get out of your head.
Plenty more we could go into, of course. But I think that’s enough for today.If you want access to these sort of tactics on demand…
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– Pat
