Warning those of you who are more on the “prude” side. This is very much a TMI email. Don’t read on if you don’t want to hear a lot of unpolite conversation about vaginas.
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This is one of the more funny questions I’ve gotten. But a client asked it, so I wanted to clear it up for any of you guys who are wondering.
There are a lot of memes about this. If a girl’s got a vagina that looks like “roast beef” or is very loose — it’s a sign she’s been a big slut.
(The idea being, in case it needed to be said, that there has been so much dick in her that it’s roughed that area up, the vagina’s falling out / is stretched out, etc.)
First let’s tackle the “roast beef.”It’s powerful imagery, which is why it sticks. But it’s not remotely true.
First, because it’s actually just biology. “Roast beef” on a woman is just the labia. Some women have a bigger one (on one side or both), others don’t.
It corresponds roughly to foreskin on a guy, so like this has nothing to do with a guy’s sexual experience, a woman’s labia has nothing to do with hers.
But the meming has had a powerful impact not only on men but on women. “Labiotomies” are one of the more popular plastic surgeries (basically trimming / evening out the labia).
My guess is this narrative, like so many of our sexual ones, comes from porn — where porn stars are almost universally screened for having bare, delicate, and “evenly balanced” vaginas (just like the guys have well above average dicks).
But the second reason it’s BS is actually the more interesting one. Because it’s INDISPUTABLE that people in relationships have far more sex than single people.
Indeed, if you’re a top level player or extremely promiscuous girl you can expect to have sex 2-3 times per week.
That’s AVERAGE for most relationships.
Which means that the vaginas getting the most dick in them, if I can be so crass, are NOT the ones from girls who are the most promiscuous.
It’s quantity not variety that would theoretically cause “wear and tear.”
Which brings us to pussy question #2.
What makes a woman loose?
Well… this one is a little more grey than the first one.
Because, while “medical professionals” claim otherwise… the anecdotal experience is pretty clear that a woman’s vagina naturally changes in tightness over time.
Which, of course, makes intuitive sense.
Yes, a vagina is elastic… but if you were to take an elastic object and stretch it on a regular basis… it’s going to lose elasticity, especially if there is nothing countering this pressure, like vaginal “kegel” exercises (which most women unfortunately don’t do).
Which means that (frequency of sex) + (size of object inside vagina) – (amount of vagina exercises) = change in vaginal elasticity over time.
But arguably more important than all of this?
Genetics.
Because far more than the above, the main reason a woman’s vagina is loose (or tight) is just because… well, she was born that way.
Yes, it doesn’t get any press because everyone is obsessed with dick size.
But vaginas have a size too.
So it’s not just about you if the fit isn’t great.
Case in point:
I’ve been with women who felt like a vise on me. So much that we had to go very slow, take a LOT of time. As we hooked up over the coming weeks, these women would initially be sore, and had to get “used” to me. But lest you think I’m some sort of goliath down south, I’ve also been with women who felt like sticking your dick in a CAVERN. Sex with them was not enjoyable AT ALL.
And of course aside from these extremes, many women who felt just right.
Was there anyway to predict this based on how the women looked? NO.
THE POINT???
The the state of our sexual objects is overwhelmingly due to nature not nurture. Which means you should stop overthinking why a girl has what she has, and decide instead whether it’s something you really care about.
Aside from extremes, most bodies work pretty well together. Which is why I don’t think it’s imperative for people to have had sex before they commit.
But, physical discrepancies can be an issue. There is such a thing as sexual chemistry and compatibility.
Anyway, I know these subjects are delicate. And I know I don’t talk about them often.
But one of the reasons working with me can be so valuable is you can be vulnerable about sexual issues — and get SOLUTIONS to them, from someone whose seen or experienced it all.
Whether your dick is a little small, or a bit too big.
Whether you can’t get it up, or you cum too early.
I deal with all of this stuff. And create a space where you’re safe to share… and ultimately overcome these issues.
That’s what coaching is all about.
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We don’t always talk about topics as racy as “roast beef p*ssy,” but we definitely keep it interesting. Plus, when you opt-in, you’ll also get a free copy of my book “The Three Pillars of Attraction,” which helps men turn the tables and get women to start approaching them.
