An interesting article was posted in our client-only group the other day I recommend you give it a read, but to summarize the argument… in addition to the classic five love languages defined by Gary Chapman (acts of service, gifts, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation), the author notes that there is a sixth: distance. Cutting to […]
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One of my readers asks: It’s sad we’re at this point where the idea of romance has been questioned… though I understand how we got here. First, the macro dynamics between men and women changed. Women no longer need providers like they used to; “provisioning gestures” have thus lost much of their value proposition. Second —
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A thread “To My Future Girlfriend” went around a week or so back, which I bookmarked to talk about: The thread actual goes on, but you get the picture. At first blush it looks pretty cheesy — you might say as “blue pill” as content comes. This guy is talking about all the different ways
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Was asked to comment about this thread: And I think I know the reason why. Our community is very much about thinking and acting like you are “the prize.” Viewed through a certain lens, this thread about women “knowing their value and acting like it” seems very feminist. But the truth is that I don’t really
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So one of the most consistent IOI’s (indicators of interest) you’ll see out there is eye contact. Women who want you to approach will look at you. Women who really want you to approach will look at you, look down, and then look back again (the “peek back” as per Nick Sparks). And women who REALLY want
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Last week I did something very “bad” from a business perspective, you might say. It was Valentine’s Day weekend, and yet I didn’t write out an in depth post talking about what you should do. There were a couple of reasons for this. But the main reason? I didn’t want to. Now, not because I’m
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Saw a very tragic story in the Relationship Reddit, one I wanted to comment on: Most of the comments are directed against this guy — like he is the “bad one” here. And I get it. He lost his temper, he was mean to her, he scared her. But at the risk of sounding like some people
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Very often I’ve been asked what books have influenced my thinking around women. And I feel like people have been rather disappointed by my response. You see, I don’t read that much. At least not in a “formal” sense. Ok, I read a TON. But my material is diffuse — there’s no real organization to this.
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Was really backed up on some DMs, so rather than answer them each individually I decided to tackle a bunch of them here:- QUESTION #1 Hey Pat, was hoping to ask you for some advice. I met this girl on a dating app (I know I know…) and we texted back and forth and the
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Got a question from one of my clients a few weeks back about something funny. You see, on a date with a girl he got an erection… and he was worried she would respond poorly if she saw it. Would she think he was some sort of creepy guy? It’s a good question.Because the answer
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