One of the most popular books in this corner is the vintage tome, The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. The book is indeed a must-read. I recommend it to all of you.It’s a very deep book. I reread it every two years, and every time I draw more insight out of it. […]
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One of the big divides between “red pill” / pick up communities and the mainstream is about age. Which age of a girl is appropriate for a guy to date, and which isn’t? A lot of people, older women of course, but even other middle aged guys with daughters… find the impulse to date “low”
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One of the key things you NEED to understand if you’re ever going to succeed with women is that attention is everything to them. It’s what they chase. To the extent they care about wealth, it’s because money grants them more attention. Diamonds — attention. Fashion — attention. Attention gets to the heart of the female identity
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So perhaps some of you saw, I was “bodyshamed” yesterday by the usual suspects on twitter for a picture I had with Anthony. Comments I received? “Soy tits” “Bad posture” “Baby arms” Now, never mind that these guys worship a dork who looks like a middle aged lesbian. Conventional wisdom would suggest I should just ignore
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Quick little story I wanted to share with you guys. As many of you know, there’s been a few ripples of problems in the UK with cold approaching. Two court cases are ongoing right now, involving guys who made women uncomfortable during their approach. (For what it’s worth, while the one involving a young anxious
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As many of you saw, I put out a few tweets the other day re: how “not crying” doesn’t make you tough, it’s a sign of emotional repression: Some of you wanted me to elaborate on this a bit. Honestly I think my comments speak for themselves. Guys around these parts are so insecure about how
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So the other weekend comi-con hit NYC, and I found myself at their official afterparty. Full disclosure: I know absolutely nothing about comics. Seen barely any superhero movies, the genre just doesn’t do all that much for me. But, a friend of mine was at the main event, dressed up as “fat thor” (absolutely incredible
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A reader writes in: Hey Pat Morning mate. I was reading some of your stuff on your webpage on dynamics I understand it from an early POV or mid POV in a relationship, but im questioning if suppose you’re in a long relationship +7-10 yrs what happens if embers die down how does a man rekindle
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So end of last week while talking about the extremely fucked up court case in the UK re: a socially anxious kid getting prosecuted for talking to a girl, I promised I’d tell a tale about a similar experience yours truly went through. An experience that helped me to understand just how the above court case
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Had a conversation with a client recently who has been going through a bit of dilemma. Long story short, he’s had a girlfriend for awhile now. Sweet, pretty girl. Good values. Perfect wife material. But he’s not really happy being with her. Her personality is a bit plain and boring. Anyway, enter this girl he
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