As you know, I love my little eavesdrops in this cafe. Tonight’s flavor was a conversation between two young, 22 year old aspiring actresses — one Romanian, one American. This chat was a charming one to listen to. Like most artistic girls, these ladies had a natural beauty and femininity to them. And the girls […]
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The other day I was hanging out at my usual cafe, concocting the prized content I know you gentlemen love, when I was presented with a brief but entertaining distraction. A couple came in, sat down next to me at the long table, and proceeded to get into a vicious fight. Now, make sure you
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The other week, something that doesn’t usually happen occurred that was a bit disappointing. A client who had signed up to work with me backed out on his word, and bailed. Of course, this wasn’t much of a surprise. I could see this happening in real time. The lack of follow-through in what we agreed
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A reader writes in, initially quoting me: “He has not shown up as a man. And escaping into another woman is not going to solve what created his current relationship problems.I know, because I spent the first couple of years with my wife in the same sort of situation.” My question is this, did you
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The other day I received a brief question from a reader regarding a previous email: “Men want to be admired; women want to be desire.” Could you explain this a bit more, the difference between being admired and desired? Or do you have an article you could point me to? —— I don’t have an article addressing
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It’s no secret: women are making a lot more moolah today. And so more and more guys are getting a little more self-conscious about their financial situation. Hypergamy dictates that women only date across and up. So what to do if your bank account isn’t looking so pretty? Well, a little context to the above
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One thing peddled quite a bit by the mainstream is the idea of repression, particularly sexual repression. It’s a very freudian concept, one at this point almost taken as a truism by modern dating and relationship writers: Repression is the #1 problem in intimate relationships. Commonly, you hear it directed towards anti-porn crusaders, religious conservatives or
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I put out on Twitter the other day some ambitions I had for the future: The inspiration for this came from some of my experiences at a retreat this weekend. It’s first first of eight I’ll be going to over the next 1.5 years. In a nutshell, this course is basically designed to give me
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Every now and then I’ll get a question from some prospective client or observer. “Well, Pat you’re not dating anymore… things have changed a lot in the last couple years… should you really be giving dating advice anymore?” It’s a real big thinkus. Though in all fairness — I get it. How could I, someone
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A reader writes in: Something I became aware of from this relationship is that I have a need to help the other person, and I start to become drained if I’m not. I started to look back at previous relationships and I noticed a trend that even included women who were very broken, and while
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