A reader writes in (abridged):

Hey pat a potential email for the brothers learning. This recently came up in a whats app group with friends of mine talking about game the first time you get a date/first outing. One of the dudes absolutely shat the bed with this date subtly imo. He told us everything that occurred but what stood out was his lack of touch earlier in the night then he over did it at night. Hugging excessively etc like a care bear

I personally got luckier maintaining physical contact subtly throughout the date only big move generally I made was a kiss. Otherwise it was generally a hug initially. Lower back touch and during the hug she definitely gets a whiff of my cologne. Worked like a charm because their faces lit up and it was like an ‘OK’ to be a bit more touchy (non sexually). You share this idea? What’s your take on it. Because I feel like that’s a very blurry line in game but it’s also a game changer if done right.

Forgot to mention. He kinda headbutt her on the hug

Ah he will bounce back if he plays his cards right

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Lol at the ending.

Anyway, the “question” is more comment than question… which is fine, because the guy has pretty much figured it out.

A brief story:

I remember when I came back from Argentina, my “game results” doubled in the states.

And no, it wasn’t just the lingering scent of those latinas that drove American girls into a frenzy.

It was the fact that in Argentina, I picked up a more comfortable relationship with physical touch.

You see… in Argentina, everyone kisses each other on the cheeks ~3 times when you meet them.

And in general, people are much more handsy over there and “invade” the other’s space more readily.

Which is probably part of the reason these Mediterranean / Hispanic countries have such a reputation for flirtation.

There is more automatic intimacy, because people are touching each other much more naturally.

I wasn’t conscious of the change in me when I returned to America. But when I’d meet girls — even just acquaintances — I’d kiss them, touch them, basically “normalize” physical contact with them from the first moments I met them.

The result?

Escalation was seamless.

Whereas if you’re like this reader’s friend, and just go abruptly into it?

No bueno.

It feels awkward, unnatural to the girl… regardless of what “erogenous” zones you’re trying to target.

Indeed, this is why in the not-so-sensual “northern” cultures you only see people getting romantic in the presence of a LOT of alcohol.

Point is:

Assume physicality from the beginning of the interaction if you want the real physical escalation to be easy.

It’s just too simple to take a girl’s hand, or kiss her properly when she’s used to your hands and face already being on her.

Pretty cool observation, no?

And one of just many that I discuss in my upcoming course.Inside it I discuss all of the “must use” tactics that make attracting and escalating with women easy.

These aren’t stupid, canned techniques. They’re “micro” principles that every guy who dominates dating uses automatically.

(the colors in your “player’s pallet” so to speak)

And that’s maybe 5% of the entire course material

You can pick it up here: https://masterclass.patstedman.com/sales-page

– Pat