A couple weeks back I was talking with a client about his situation with a girl in a bar.
More or less, this girl was giving him some serious eyes… so he went and approached.
But after attempting to make some conversation she acted weird and a little cold, so he aborted the interaction.
And yet as the night went on, he’d continue to see her staring at him across the room… until by the end of the night, when said woman was leaving, he smiled and waved at him.
Weird, right?
My man was very confused and a little self-reproaching. In his mind, he had botched the interaction… the girl was interested and he blew it.
Well, while there is a little fact to this worldview, it’s mostly fiction.
And moreover bad framing on his part.
Here’s why:
The girl is the one who was awkward and messed up things, not him.
Now, could he have salvaged it? Sure.
He could have given her a confused, playful look, gone right up to her as she was leaving and easily gotten her number.
But only if he got out of his own head and realized that the girl was the one who sucked at flirting not him.
Look lads:
I know it’s a hard thing for us to remember when we see problems with our ability to attract women. We’re very much focused on taking responsibility for everything that happens to us.
Which is GOOD as a mindset. It’s empowering, and encourages further improvement.
But tactically you need to apply some nuance to this and look at situations more objectively.
Women are humans too… and they’re not always or even often good at dating.
They talk too much on dates. They act aloof when guys they like approach them. They act bitchy as a defense mechanism even though they’re interested.
You need to learn to see through this stuff and know when a girl is self-conscious or protecting herself.
You need to read her subcommunication to gauge whether her actions are a product of mindset and or poor technique.
How do you do it?
Simple:
Apply to work with me.
Nothing gets by me when it comes to women. You provide me with a situation with women, I ask questions, and we talk about what happened / what could happen… and then we go DEEP into why this is the case, so you can learn the female psychology I know.
Which is why within a few months to a year 90% of my clients don’t need me anymore.
They’ve “leveled up” their awareness… and have the quality and/or quantity of women to prove it.
There’s just one catch.
You have to take action if you want the results.
Otherwise neither I nor anybody can help you.
(I help you accelerate faster, but you still need to put your foot on the gas)
Anyway, if you’re ready to get moving, apply here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
