So a tweet of mine is going viral, figured I’d expound on it:
“The reason broken people fall in love so regularly and so intensely is because it’s one of the few ways they can feel whole.”
Lot of implicit truth to this one, isn’t there?It occurred to me dealing with a couple of clients recently.
They’ve fallen hard for women… had intense, head-over-heels romances.
And yet, within a few weeks or months of these “soul mate” love affairs… the relationship starts to take a turn for the worse.
They get heavy. One or both parties gets needy.
And the drama sets in.
There are fights, “talks about feelings”… and eventual distancing by one of the parties… who, before you know it, “falls in love” with someone else.
A cycle that repeats over and over again.
A new “soul mate,” a new emotional escape.
And very soon, a new tragedy.
So I’m going to advise those of you reading this who find yourself “falling hard” for a girl to do something you may have hesitated in doing.
Apply to work with me.
Because here’s the stone cold truth:
Obsession and infatuation are signs of immaturity and incompleteness. Not of love. And if you don’t address it, you will never have a healthy, enduring relationship with a woman.
It’s one thing to fall hard at 16 when you’re young and don’t know any better.
But if you’re still doing it in yours 20s and beyond, you’re wasting your time.
None of these crushes are going to work out.
Because you don’t actually love the other person, you love how they make you feel.
And when two people come into a relationship to take from each other, they only break each other down further.
They consume each other, like two rats in a cage.
Do you really want to live like that?
Understand:
Healthy relationships only happen when both parties can selflessly give love to the other.
And you can only selflessly give love when you love yourself first.
Too bad that I expect many of you on here — if you’re being really honest with yourself — don’t have that self-love.
You’re out looking to see what you can get from women, rather than what you can give.
A shame, really.
Because I believe you all deserve to feel love.
But, you won’t get it if you keep operating like this.
You need to change… you need to have your mind rewired… your heart opened up…
Easier said that done, I know. It’s hard to change how you feel.
Which is why it’s silly to do these things alone.
One of the biggest things I do with my clients is heal their emotional wounds and transform their mindset.
So if you’re struggling with neediness, negative thoughts, inner demons…I highly recommend you stop fucking around.
And apply here: www.patstedman.com/application
For your own sake.
I know what it’s like to be in that dark place, to feel insecure.
And I know what it’s like to be in a bright place, brimming with confidence.
It is literally night and day. And since I’ve been through the journey myself, I know how to guide you through it.
– Pat
