So yesterday I put out a very important tweet that got very little engagement:

“Deservedness > Discipline”

I think it got like 3 likes or something — pretty shit for an almost 11K account.

Honestly though I wasn’t all that surprised.

It was a very unclear tweet (partially by design)… and everyone knows el mano-sphere HATES anything that might mock the god of discipline.

But the truth is that discipline is overrated.

Discipline is conscious effort forcing your body / mind to do something it desperately wants to do.

It is an impressive exertion of will, and in some circumstances the difference between victory and defeat.

But it ain’t the 80/20 my friends.

And here’s why:

Discipline is psychologically taxing, and therefore isn’t sustainable.

In your life, it is best served as a TACTIC not a STRATEGY.

(Read: Tactics, Strategy, and Women)

By that I mean it is something to get you through a particularly trying or tempting moment, not a way of going about life.

You should be doing the best things for yourself naturally.

NOT because you are forcing yourself to.

AKA in layman’s terms:

If you need discipline to not be a fuck up you don’t really need discipline, you need to ask yourself why part of you wants to be a fuck up.

One thing that took me ages to understand, that I will save you the trouble of figuring out:

If it is difficult for you to do something good for yourself, the problem isn’t that you need to power through the self-sabotage… but that you need to figure out WHY you are self-sabotaging, and rewrite the belief causing it.

The fat dude who can’t bring himself to do 20 pushups doesn’t have a discipline problem, it’s that he wants to be fat on a certain level.

Or rather: he doesn’t feel like he deserves to be fit.

It’s what tons of dudes don’t get or misconstrue for their own reasons (here’s how to “be more disciplined” sells)

Discipline is nice, and discipline can help rewire your brain… because your brain experiences and internalizes the rewards of action.

But discipline avoids the central question, which is deservedness.

Moreover:An obsession with discipline when you haven’t addressed deservedness can actually just make discipline another cudgel you use to beat yourself.

A lot of guys’ self-talk goes something like this:

“You’re a piece of shit, I can’t believe you didn’t do that, you bitched out and gave up early, you’re weak…”

No bueno. Nor productivo.

Understand…

You can’t change unless you want to change.

The reason lottery winners lose all of their money is because they know they didn’t deserve the money. So they find ways unconsciously to rid themselves of it.

So if you’re thinking discipline is the answer, you’re probably wrong.

You need to not only want it, but feel like you should get it.

And if you don’t feel like you should get it… (ex: beautiful, high character women)

You won’t.

You’ll attract sluts and shrews, women who will screw you over.

(If you attract any women at all)

So.

The answer?

Well, there is one… one that not only tackles deservedness but also assists the discipline…

Me.

Over our time working together, I will rewire your brain.

Eliminating cognitive dissonance and self-sabotaging beliefs.

As well as helping you to find out what you *really* want (vs what some dude online told you that you should)

And that’s not all…

I also act as an external form of discipline. Because I hold you accountable to your own wants and needs… making sure during difficult moments you stay on track.

The only catch?

You have to do something very scary…

And apply.

Allowing yourself to abandon your current ways of thinking.

Putting yourself outside of your comfort zone.

And investing a not-insignificant amount of money into ensuring these changes occur.

Unfortunately, as I’ve said before… those who need help the most tend to make the excuses not to get it.

Oh well.

Can’t save em all.

But if you’re one of the brave…

Go here: www.patstedman.com/application

– Pat