So I received the following story from a client the other day.
Truth be told, it was one of the first “dating stories” that made me really “think” in a long time.
What happened:
My client was in a group, chatting up a girl, who had been pretty interested in him throughout the night.
(He was starting to lose interest in her, but this is besides the point)
Anyway, this guy comes over — random individual who hadn’t said much so far — and blurts out something that stops everyone’s conversations.
“Who wants to hear a shocking story of betrayal?”
The statement is intense yet intriguing, and hijacks everyone’s attention.
“I’ll start,” he says.
And proceeds to tell everyone about his ex girlfriend.
You see… she had been hiking in Turkey, when she fell off a cliff and broke her back.
She was paralyzed — not sure how bad — but she was more or less helpless. And he flew across the world to go over there and help her… even spending his own money to bring her back home (to Australia).
But when she got home… something terrible happened.
After staying by her bedside for months… he realized he didn’t want to take care of her for the rest of her life.
And so, he left her.
Now.
Here’s why this story is interesting.
Right after telling this story, which was about HIM being this terrible person… the girl was aghast… but ready to tell her own story.
But just as she started to talk… he told her “come over to the bar and get a drink and tell me there.”
And just like that… this guy, out of nowhere, entered a conversation and took the girl my client had been flirting with.
With a story about how HE had betrayed a girl.
Was the story true? Was it a ruse?
Hard to say.
It’s a story so crazy you’d think it HAD to be true. And maybe this is how he’s learned to deal with it.
(Also, I haven’t heard of such a technique before… and I’m pretty keyed into this world)
But nevertheless the story was POWERFUL at attracting women.
And I’ll tell you why.
First, it creates immediate mystery and intrigue.
Women love drama, and everyone wants to hear about betrayal… one of the most emotionally engaging emotions.
Off the bat, this guy was able to capture everyone’s attention.
But when you think someone is going to tell a story of betrayal… rarely do you think it’s going to be about the person himself doing the betraying.
At first you think it’s about someone else… then you listen to the story, you think that he’s going to end up the victim.
Whereas in truth, HE’S the bad guy.
So you’ve got her attention and interest through this twist.
But here’s part 2.
It encourages other girls to share how they’ve been bad too.
The guy isn’t consumed with pain about what he did, which makes him an asshole.
But because he’s owned the brand, and being a “bad person”… it encourages the girl in question to share something terrible she’s done.
This is both intimate, building a lot of rapport… yet also allows for rapid escalation… since “bad girls” do bad things…
In other words, whether true or not, this unconventional approach was crack cocaine when it comes to women.
Which is why this guy was in the corner with this lady just minutes after approaching her.
Anyway, what to learn from it?
Well, many things.
You can use a similar tactic for yourself, approaching girls with a particularly embarrassing or cruel story… just make sure it subcommunicates attractive things about yourself.
(Be careful reusing this one. It’ll be more difficult and it’s a bad habit to get into to pretend to be someone else.)
And you can glean from it the fundamentals of how women operate.
Such as that nothing attracts women more than a good dramatic story.
Understand… with women, emotion is EVERYTHING.
Don’t listen to the internet alphas who tell you to be rigid caricature.
Women need to feel things from you to have feelings for you.
If you’re not making her feel anything, you lose before it’s done.
(Which is why logical questions etc are the ultimate way to lose a girl)
I could teach you the ways I do this. How to become an attractive storyteller with an energy that makes women excited… regardless of your distinct personality.
In fact, I would.
So long as you are my client.
You guys get some concepts, but personal work for your personal circumstances?
That’s for the guys willing to invest in themselves.
(AKA the guys who actually end up with a better dating life)
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– Pat
