Yesterday we talked about authenticity, and how many are just play-acting the trait. But even genuine authenticity isn’t the be-all-end all in attraction. Indeed… if it’s not packaged correctly, it can even be a liability. The reason? Authentic people act boring. Now, are they ACTUALLY boring? I don’t know. A lot of people seem boring, […]
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With the rise of the “personal brand,” everybody’s been talking about authenticity. I’m happy about it, too. Authentic people are more enjoyable to be around, and it’s good for business — authenticity is correlated with the deep work I do with clients. But there’s a trap that many people who want to be “authentic” fall into.
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As most of you know, I’m currently in France. So it should be no surprise I’ve taken time to visit some wine producers. It’s fascinating to see how these guys work. There are certain “universals,” obviously, to how they make wine — but they styles are so distinct. One guy has a real cult following
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It’s no shock to people that I enjoy my drink. Alcohol is fun, though truth be told its the culture around it I love. (Why 95%+ of what I drink is wine, unless I am in Poland or Mexico, when it’s vodka or tequila shots respectively) And so, I’ve had my share of “hangovers” and
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I think I mentioned the other day about artists and adventurers. I consider them both to be two sides of the same coin. One an internal expression, the other external. But same energy. Same idea, in fact, of expression. Which is the key here for us today. If you’ve ever wondered why high-powered, successful men get
Russell Brand Game Read More »
Going to keep this one short and sweet. I have just landed in Lyon and have one day in the city before I explore the countryside of the Rhone, Jura mountains, and Provence. So I want to make the most of it. But before I go flaneur, I must admit to being moved by a
My Meanest Email Yet Read More »
I wondered about sending this email out — after all, any association with Bronze Age Pervert (BAP) — the “fascist, steppe barbarian, nudist bodybuilding” leader of Frogtwitter — has tons of risk and very little reward. But I’m a curious guy, and we explore all sorts of ideas here. Also: I do not give a
Bronze Age Mindset Read More »
“The reason you’re not successful is because you don’t want to be. And until you examine and eliminate that belief there’s nothing anybody can do for you.” I tweeted this out the other day, as it’s been on my mind recently. I’m fascinated by beliefs. There is something literally magical to them. Energy that lurks
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My wife’s surprise for me was something special this past weekend. She contacted pretty much all of my friends, some of whom she hadn’t even met yet. (Yes, we encourage each other to hang out with our respective friends, not necessarily including each other) Which really blew me away. How did she even know how
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I turned 30 today. I should probably have a multitude of “wisdom snippets” for all of you — various things I’ve learned over the years. But I’m going to save those snippets for my clients. The truth is what I’ve learned over over the past decade, since I started on this path of understanding attraction
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