Going to keep this one brief since it’s a bit late and I have a Beaujolais and tracksuit party to go to… despite — or should I say, especially — due to our first snowstorm.
(it’s this sort of magical randomness that makes me love NYC)
Anyway, the headline is a topic I find comes up with men a lot.
And most are only partially aware of it.
For instance, a guy who struggles with women might “know” he’s afraid of rejection.
But rarely has he actually thought about WHY that rejection matters so much to him.
Which is, in fact, the crux of the problem.
(One that I have sparred with many a guy in this corner of the universe over…)
Guys can talk about all the amorality of women, their superficiality, their fickleness, their solipsism…
But the only reason that stuff matters, in the macro?
Because guys feel powerless in front of it.
Resentful.
Hurt.
Bitter.
Gents, there’s just no other way around it.
So long as women have something you NEED, they will dominate your thinking if they won’t give it.
And let’s be honest… women DO have something we at least want, right?
Sex.
Particularly from the most attractive women (since they’ll give us the best babies… and encourage other women to offer their same womb-access up)
But I would in fact argue that this is low motive of man.
Most if not all of the great men in history have not cared one bit about sex, at least, compared to their broader aims.
Women were diversions. Little more.
Which is something I want you to think a bit about, friends.
Why is sex so important to you?
I’m not mentioning it because it’s something you should just forget about…
But to remind you that for many women this is literally all they offer.
I get so frustrated hearing some men talk about “what is X woman going to do if I don’t do Y, how do I sleep with her?”
Because the question should really be…
Why do you care so much, man?
What does this woman have that makes you feel so SMALL in comparison?
Maybe it’s an inversion of nature. I don’t know.
But it’s a “beta” move in my mind to think that you need access to that space between a girl’s legs.
Top tier guys are rare.
Hypergamy is a double edged sword that can be used to your advantage.
And it’s never been easier to be in the top-tier.
Easy opportunities to make money, and a dating market that has never seen more insecure and depressed people.
Give yourself 5 years and you can literally go from zero to hero if you put your mind to it.
And your mind can really stop thinking about being a zero the second you get on this path. Because most men aren’t even trying.
So, to sum up. I’ll say what I said a few weeks ago again:
Stop giving women the power to hurt you.
It is entirely in your mind.
The person rejecting you is almost never something special.
And if you need help getting this mindset integrated in your mind?
Look no further than yours truly.
I know it’s easy to get shy, get in your head, freeze up even when you consciously “know” the above.
But if your unconscious isn’t on board with a belief, you’re going to find your actions stiff and brittle like rusty metal.
Which is why I’m around.
We’ll work together to resolve that dissonance… so you can get out of your own way… and lose all the worries concerning women.
After all, you’ll be getting more of them… and of a higher quality than before…Apply to work with me here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
