I was about halfway through an article on Introverted Feeling (Fi) vs Extroverted Feeling (Fe) in seduction, when I bailed.

This happens from time to time with writing.

I have an idea, and think it will be great (Extroverted intuition)

And then I apply my critical lens to it (Introverted thinking) and realize I just don’t have enough to work with.

I was overreaching on the topic and will have to be more precise about each type when it comes to seduction.

(Oh well, more content for you!)

Anyway let’s talk about seduction “big picture” for a moment.

Because I had a question today I assume said man is not alone in wondering:

“if seduction is usually a bad strategy overall, what’s the alternative?”

First let me help all of you understand exactly what seduction is.

Seduction is a tool.

Think of it like SWAT teams and assaulting a building. Let’s say there are two primary methods of assaulting the building — direct and indirect.

Direct, for instance, might be like dominance. You kick open the door and go in guns-a-blazing.Indirect, in contrast, is like seduction. You might trick the criminals into coming out or letting down their guard, so you can sneak units in and capture the enemy.

Both dominance and seduction are thus tactics.

The problem is that most people who don’t have a mission and who go into “training,” let the tactics become the end goal.

You see this sometimes in military movies.

It’s the General who always wants to go to war with someone. Why? Because he knows how to go to war, so why not?

Guys who get into the dating scene do the same thing. They learn seduction and then adopt seduction as their life purpose.

There is no why to their seducing — they simply know how to, so they do it.

So when I say don’t make seduction your strategy overall, I’m NOT saying don’t seduce.

There is nothing wrong with attracting a woman using allure.

(to be fair there are some complications, but we’ll save that for another time)

But if you are seducing to seduce, it shows you have no strategy, no internal vision — you are basically spinning your wheels, reduced to dopamine hits from the girls you pursue.

You are, in other words, a slave to female validation — even if you become very good at getting it.

Internalize this distinction well. It is STRATEGY — not tactics — that determines the tier of women you are dating.

And the greater a vision a man has, the higher up on the Tiers of Attraction he goes.

Anyway this vision-finding is basically a key thing I do with my clients.

We parse through your actions and intentions and get you to see what REALLY matters to you.

We make it so that you are motivated by your own vision, so when you talk to women you *always* have the frame.

But a word of caution.

Because I know that might sound good… on the surface.

But I have it on good authority this approach is really, at its core, just about “building better betas.”

I don’t really understand it, since by the end of this process, my guys get laid all the time and never stress about women. Meanwhile the “red pill alphas” seem to be really upset at women…

But what do I know?

Guess I’m building an army of betas.

Happy guys who date beautiful women on their own terms…

Anyway if you want to join them, apply here: www.patstedman.com/application

– Pat