I remember as a teenager, meandering through the Cherry Hill Mall (shout out to South Jersey!), always feeling strange when walking by Victoria’s Secret.
The place has a “forbidden” element to it. It was for women. Given the models and lingerie everywhere, you were a “pervert” if — as a man — you went in there without a girlfriend. If you did — you better be buying something for her.
Now I’m older and don’t give a shit, but it’s funny how some element of “scandal” remains.
For instance, I was in there yesterday buying something for my wife when I encountered a family leaving.
The father was an attractive, tanned yet light featured guy. Had a macho air to him. I can’t explain some of these things but I patterned him as a wealthy Brazilian almost instantly. He was there with his wife, who was pretty but on the decline, and his daughter — who was late teens and drop dead gorgeous.
I found the dynamic fascinating.
Here was a father basically shopping for lingerie with his attractive daughter. Maybe they were getting something else, but delicates make up 90% of the store.
And yet the whole family seemed completely unfazed.
Daddy was obviously very protective of his little girl, though not adverse to her showing off her beauty.
Now, I can do some speculation about the undertones really at play there…
Many men with beautiful daughters flaunt them, yet control them as a form of power.
It’s a cultural currency. “Not only am I a wealthy, influential man, I control the most powerful item of all — a fertile womb with good genes (which happen to also be mine).”
It sounds weird and sick to even write that. But that’s the truth.
Sons may have been preferred by kings, but beautiful daughters were just as useful weapons.
Anyway, for all the weird freudian paths we could take this, this girl will likely have things sorted out for her romantically. She loves her parents, feels cared for and safe, and while she’ll probably have a few “secret flings” — in all likelihood she’s only going to date guys from “good stock,” and date them seriously.
And I think this dynamic — which is quite common with Slavic girls, Southern girls, and Latino girls — explains a bit of why such women are so appealing.
They’re feminine.
And they’re feminine in large part because daddy is unabashedly in the picture.
This was the case with my first girlfriend. Her father was very protective, but in a confident not overbearing manner. He was a real dumb schmuck, former jock, and I hated him. But I was a skinny nerd with his beautiful (only) daughter so no wonder. She was feminine, and he intended to keep it that way.
Anyway — these dynamics are something you might want to consider when dating a girl.
Her relationship with her father is crucial.
Because the most feminine ones, and likely least promiscuous, are going to have strong fathers in their lives.
Which means you better not be a little bitch.
You better understand how to be a man and how to understand women.
Which is where I come in.
I know there are guys on this list who don’t have a lot of experience with women. Or who have had the *wrong* experiences, and are tired of them.
That’s really fine.
Anyone who is COMMITTED to change can change. Every guy might not have the genetic ability to be a rocket scientist, but EVERY guy does has the capacity to do well with women.
But it’s not going to happen if you don’t take it seriously.
And time is always slipping away…
Anyway, go work with me if you’re impatient and want results quickly: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
