It happened to me almost incidentally. But one day I woke up and just had it.

Of course, this wasn’t really an out-of-the-blue thing.

It was a shift over a long progression of years.

A changing of beliefs.

A rewiring.

I am of course talking about Frame.

(Read: What Is Frame?)

There were a couple things that led me to it.

But one stands out as particularly relevant — and I’ve used the realization successfully to shift the same beliefs in clients.

This is the understanding that other people aren’t very special. Especially girls. 

Some feelers, especially of the female variety, might hate this statement. And I do not mean to overgeneralize with it.

But when guys lack frame it’s fundamentally because they believe other people matter more than them — none more so than beautiful women.

Contrary to popular belief this isn’t a modern idea.

The average man has always put women on a pedestal, because women are the vessel of life. They are nature, judging man’s worth.

Man thus wants to prove to nature that he is worthy of procreation.

But the best men understand that their gifts are such that nature should seek them out.

You see with men, most are fungible. Designed to be discarded. Some are straight-up flawed.

But some are invaluable. The best genes in a species transfer through men. They are nature’s evolutionary mechanism; how nature experiments.

To have frame you need to start thinking like these men.

To make you understand this I have a distinct approach in my coaching which unravels dissonant beliefs. It is a process that requires focused attention on both my part and yours, yet in a few hours we can change perspectives that have existed for decades.

But I will give you some information to pique your interest.

You must stop thinking women have something you need.

Understand, this doesn’t mean you can’t want or desire women. But you need to have an abundance attitude towards sex and feminine gifts. And the paradox of abundance is that you can develop it by not obsessing over it.

You must look at it like you have a scarce commodity, while their’s is fungible.

Which it is.

Even if you’re not getting laid a lot right now, understand that sex is all over the place today.

And there is really nothing special about it.

If you think you’re “missing out” because you’re not having drunken one night stands, you need to stop paying attention to the cultural narrative and start thinking for yourself.

You must look at yourself, and what you have to offer, as the prize.

I know this “mindset” has been running in PUA circles for awhile. But they are dissonant about it because they are pursuing women, trying to make dynamics with women work all while telling themselves that they have an abundance attitude.

The truth is you can’t chase and put your full focus on game.

You need to screen not simply like women, but more strongly than them.

You need to cut women out left and right when they don’t meet your standards.

You need to be picky.

Cause if you do…

  1. You’ll find they behave a lot better, and chase a lot more. And…
  2. You’ll feel complete confidence when talking to them.

Friends, good women are out there.

But you won’t find them if you’re chasing sex.

And you won’t find them if you’re tolerating bad behavior.

Have standards, and you’ll have the frame.

And if you want help removing the beliefs holding you back?

Consider working with me.

It’s what I’m known for around these parts… www.patstedman.com/application

– Pat