I’m the youngest of three, but significantly so.
So when I was a toddler, my sisters were in high school.
I was the cute bane of their existence.
A curious child, I’d always be places I wasn’t supposed to be in. And would frequently sneak into their room and mess things up.
Usually, they’d tell me to get out. To which I would lurk around the corner and find a way to get back in.(
To this day, nothing makes me smile more than watching someone else getting annoyed. I love chaos)
Anyway, eventually my oldest sister found a solution to the Patrick Problem.
When she’d catch me ready to sneak in, she’d tell me to “get in this room right now!”
Which me, the natural contrarian, took as a sign to immediately vacate the premises.
It’s an interesting thing about human psychology.
We don’t like being told what to do.
So much so, we instinctually do the opposite.
Ben Settle, email genius, figured this “repulsion marketing” out quite nicely.
Tell people to go away, and not only do they come… but the majority that come are people you actually want to view your products
(Perhaps you’ve noticed I do this quite frequently)
But what isn’t noticed so much is how applicable this is in dating.
One of the first things I work on with my clients is digging deep into “what you want.” Because what you want is a value.
It’s an energy source.
That can then be used to both attract and repel others.
It pushes away the women that will cast a pox on your life.
And draws in the ones that will lighten it up.
Simple, no?
But not necessarily easy.
It’s tough in a world that’s telling you want to want, to decide what you want.
And it’s even tougher for thinkers, who are disposed to thinking objectively (logic), vs subjectively (values).
Which is why my coaching is useful.
There are some people who are very in touch with their values.
But because values are so natural to them, they don’t know how to even communicate to people who operate based on logic.
They may represent what the logician wants, but they show him no way to get there.
Like waving across a ravine, they place no bridge.
I’m different.
I’m a logical person, and I’ve struggled with values my whole life. It’s why I went deep into pick up (the quintessential logic-based approach to dating).
And it’s why I’ve found myself in job after job that “made sense” but wasn’t a fit for me.
No longer.
I live based on values today. And even though I can’t always expressly elucidate them… I can pay attention to what my body is saying, to avoid doing “logical” things that compromise them.
(It’s no coincidence my life has never been better.)
And I know how to get you there as well.
If you want this kind of transformation, go here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
